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I wish they'd taught this at school but am working on it now so I can improve my life and not feel so used, abused, not heard and taken advantage of.
does anyone else here feel they aren't assertive enough?
http://stress.about.com/od/relations...owtoassert.htm
My life goes on without me!!
Hi IV just learning some of those skills myself in therapy funny how in some parts of my life i can be very assertive but in other parts i just seem to withdraw and hide I too wish they taught assertiveness in school especially to the ones that were so shy and withdrawn.
The trick is to assert yourself in a non threatening/non patronising manner otherwise you are just a bully or someone who pushes others about.
There is no replacement for socialising. That is were we learn and hone our social skills. You become assertive by experience - each person you meet and communicate with will be left with an impression even after we meet for a minute or so.
To be a good conversationalist you also need to be a good listener. But don't become some wall to talk to - be polite if people use up too much time - make your excuses and bid them goodbye.
So, hang out with some people, put yourself in social situations and perhaps voluntary work helping others less fortunate.
Confidence is the key - feel confident in your self and you will assert yourself as and when you need to do so.
Good luck!
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