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Thread: Assertiveness

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    Senior Member IV2010's Avatar
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    I wish they'd taught this at school but am working on it now so I can improve my life and not feel so used, abused, not heard and taken advantage of.

    does anyone else here feel they aren't assertive enough?
    My life goes on without me!!

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    SF Friend total eclipse's Avatar
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    Re: Assertiveness

    Hi IV just learning some of those skills myself in therapy funny how in some parts of my life i can be very assertive but in other parts i just seem to withdraw and hide I too wish they taught assertiveness in school especially to the ones that were so shy and withdrawn.

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    Senior Member peacelovingguy's Avatar
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    Re: Assertiveness

    The trick is to assert yourself in a non threatening/non patronising manner otherwise you are just a bully or someone who pushes others about.

    There is no replacement for socialising. That is were we learn and hone our social skills. You become assertive by experience - each person you meet and communicate with will be left with an impression even after we meet for a minute or so.

    To be a good conversationalist you also need to be a good listener. But don't become some wall to talk to - be polite if people use up too much time - make your excuses and bid them goodbye.

    So, hang out with some people, put yourself in social situations and perhaps voluntary work helping others less fortunate.

    Confidence is the key - feel confident in your self and you will assert yourself as and when you need to do so.

    Good luck!

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