Hi, I am a new member and this is my first post. This issue with my co-workers has begun to depress me so much that I just really needed to talk about it and see if anyone else has been in a situation like mine, and how they coped with it, because I am truly struggling. It's got to the point where I cry myself to sleep at night and dread waking up in the morning.
I began this new job in April. I work part-time while most of the staff there are full timers. To begin with I didn't really notice anything was up. I am naturally a shy and quiet person, but I made a big effort to always smile and say hello whenever I saw the other staff throughout the day, even the ones that I barely ever have to work with. But there was one girl, right from the very beginning, who never wanted anything to do with me. If I said hello she would ignore me. If I walk into a room she turns her back on me. If I tried to begin a conversation with her, she would give me a one-word answer and then go back to ignoring me. She began this treatment of me in April when I was brand new to the job, and has continued it right up to now, and to this day I have no idea what her problem is with me. As an example of her hostility towards me, yesterday I bumped right into her as we were going in opposite directions along a corridor. I smiled and said, "Hi! How are you?" She totally ignored me. She did not even crack a smile but just walked on by as though I was invisible.
But now it's not just her; it's other people too. Mainly it is this nasty girl's group of close friends. They have all begun to ignore me as though I don't exist. Yesterday I unfortunately had to work in close contact with two of them all afternoon. They talked over me the whole time as though I was not there, and the only time they said anything to me was to ask me to clean up after them. Any efforts by me to begin a conversation were met with one-word answers and they never meet my gaze. They did not say hello to me when I came in nor goodbye to me when I left. It is making me feel as though I am worth nothing and I cannot describe how much it is beginning to get me down.
It's got to the point now where I am going outside in the freezing cold every day during my lunch breaks because I don't want to sit in the staff room with them all talking over me and acting as though I'm not there. I guess not sitting with them makes me even more excluded, but being in their company makes me feel so awful and crushes my self esteem - I just can't bear it anymore.
What (if anything) ought I to do about this? :sad:
Thanks for listening... I'm sorry it's so long.