My 90 year old dad passed away last night after a few days in hospital with fluid on the lungs and chest infection. Both my sister and I were there....only just. RIP dad, I did love you but never told you.
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My 90 year old dad passed away last night after a few days in hospital with fluid on the lungs and chest infection. Both my sister and I were there....only just. RIP dad, I did love you but never told you.
OMG! cannot say how sorry I am to hear this having lost a much loved dad a mere 23 months ago.
My heart and thoughts go out to you
"To those who believe in God, no explanation is necessary.
To those who do not, no explanation will suffice."
http://www.fleurdelis.com/desiderata.htm
"step drag, stumble drool"
ME: Mad...Bad...and Dangerous to know!!! :diablo:
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it will always be yours.
If it doesn't come back, it was never yours to begin with.
But, if it just sits in your living room, messes up your stuff, eats your food, uses your telephone,
takes your money, and doesn't appear to realise that you had set it free.....
you either married it or gave birth to it.
I came.....I saw.....I Gave Up!!! :bunny:
Hugs to you hun your dad knows you did not have to say words hun
My heart goes out to you. My mom died a little over a year ago and even though she was 93 years old and I am over 50 myself, there is just this giant void in my heart where my relationship with her used to be. Don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't feel pain because the person was old and lived a long life. It hurts just the same. After all, we don't want our loved ones to get old in the first place, much less die and leave us. I don't know who wrote the script for life on this planet, but I could sure do without the part of the story where we all get old and die.
I am sorry for your loss SnowFallenAngel - my stepdad is 90 and said today he's 20 years past his sell-by date....and looks on every day as a bonusBut he has great faith that when his time comes it won't be the end of his internal life (soul, spirit etc.) because of the promise made by the Person who did write the script for our life on the planet and who has communicated everything we need to know about essentially not dying when we (our bodies) wear out.
I do appreciate that many think this is just hogwash or old wives' tales etc..... but I didn't write the book, I just believe it and rejoice in the real hope it brings
You Are Precious
The truth is, concerning our value and worth - that EVERYONE is valuable and worthy because they are a part of Creation....... we all just need some healing from our collective mistaken identity
"You call my name
I come to You in pieces
so that You can make me whole.
You can make sense of who I am - when I see Your face I know I'm finally Yours and I find everything I thought I had lost You for"
My sympathies, but rejoice in the fact that he lived a very long, and I'm sure happy, life. My father passed at the early age of 39 due to complications dealing with alcoholism, while I was only 11. Your father may have passed, but despite the loss, know that the two of you had what many, many others didn't.
That last part came out sounding wrong. Just know that you and your father had a long life together. All relationships come to an end. Try to consider the fact that yours was so long.
Again, my sympathies.
"Such a lot the gods gave to me--to me, the dazed, the disappointed; the barren, the broken."
I'm so sorry to hear! I'm thinking of you.
Squirrels just seem to live "right." They collect their food directly from the Earth's natural bounty...or from friendly humans. They find time to play every day. And at night, they curl up together, staying safe and warm in their cosy nests. Squirrels have the right idea.
My deepest sympathies to you. It is so difficult losing a beloved parent. No matter what age they are. Keep the good memories close to your heart and recall those times when things seem rough. Thinking of you.
I am so sorry for your loss...there is a very special bond with an aged parent (for me a grandparent), a wisdom and a love that cannot be matched...after 20 years, I continue to live the lessons my grandma taught me...but I still miss her each day..I was fortunate to find a bottle of the perfume like the type she had worn at a flea market several years ago...when I am down, smelling it and remembering how much I was loved has become my teddy bear...hold him dear in your heart, and know that words are not the only way we express our love (like you, there was a person dear to me who I discovered not too long ago had died, and I never thanked her nor told her how much I loved her; I now try to include in texts to those that I love, ILU quite often so I never forget again)
Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love. (Laotzu)
Words have the power to both destroy and heal.
When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. (Buddha)
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. (HH The Dalai Lama)
If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them. (HH The Dalai Lama)
It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell. (Buddha)
You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. (Buddha)
Taxing the poor can NEVER be a solution to our economic problems...wake up people!
Here is a book that you might find comfort in:
"The Orphaned Adult: Understanding And Coping With Grief And Change After The Death Of Our Parents" [Paperback]
Alexander Levy (Author)
http://www.amazon.com/Orphaned-Adult.../dp/0738203610
It's about coping with the loss of your parents as an adult, and all the feelings that go along with that, which people don't discuss very often because we think it's natural for old people to die and adults shouldn't still need their parents. Both my parents have died and I could relate to a lot of things in this book.
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