A cry for help

[stupidfrombirth]

How can you cry out for help without people accusing you of just having a pitty party?

 

[Hazel]

I think most of us have someone we know who will take that attitude to any admission of depression, these people are ill informed and have no idea what we are going through.
On the other hand the majority of people, friends/family will understand and try to support us. Perhaps you would prefer to speak to a counsellor or doctor about your problems?
One place where I can assure you no one will think you are having a 'pity party' is SF. All our members are here because they have have problems and truly will understand what you are going through.
Talk to us....

Hazel

 

[Blue bell]

I personally feel that people have to have been where we are to understand that its nothing to do with pity.

We are all here and listening if you want to share whats going on for you.

noone here will feel you are having a pity party.

Welcome to SF and i hope you will find all the support you need while here.

Blue bell

 

[canis-lupis]

Hi
We can hear you & we are listening, you will find there is usually someone online & pretty much everyone is ready to lend an ear, If you dont feel comfortable posting then feel free to send me a pm . OH and btw
Hello and welcome
:hug:

come on and let it all out , we might not have answers to all questions but it does help to just let the pressure go now and again.

 

[Sadeyes]

This is why it is most helpful to be the most authentic person you can; in this way, any expression is less likely to be from pity...J

 

[d-pressed]

Hi there,

Understand that it's not a personal attack on you, it's a problem of ignorance - the people saying these things just don't know or understand. So you don't have to feel guilty about asking for help. By means go and find it from medical professionals/counsellors. Then you may eventually be able to express yourself better to your family or peers or whoever is saying these things so that they can understand better.

As some members have already said, we do understand, and are here to listen and help in any way we can.
:hugtackles:

 

[Aurora Gory Alice]

When anybody accuses me of such nonsense (having a 'pity party'). I simply say to them "ever felt low?", "ever been dumped?", "ever had someone treat you like crap?", "ever had one depressive thought?".

Their answer is always yes - because we ALL have.

Ask them what if someone had accused them of having a pity party at that time, how would they have felt?

You know what, all of our circumstances are different, all of our upbringings, but most importantly all of our personalities and the way we react to situations.

Two children can be brought up by the same set of abusive parents, one can be perfectly fine - the other can become suicidal or an addict or develop mental health issues (the case with my own family, myself being the latter).

I am so sick of people being judged by others because they manage to 'get on with and get through' life and some of us struggle. How dare they.

You are entitled to pity, you are entitled to cry out for and ask for help. You're human and it is your right and whoever said that needs a royal boot up their ass.

 

[jameslyons]

When anybody accuses me of such nonsense (having a 'pity party'). I simply say to them "ever felt low?", "ever been dumped?", "ever had someone treat you like crap?", "ever had one depressive thought?".

Their answer is always yes - because we ALL have.

Ask them what if someone had accused them of having a pity party at that time, how would they have felt?

You know what, all of our circumstances are different, all of our upbringings, but most importantly all of our personalities and the way we react to situations.

Two children can be brought up by the same set of abusive parents, one can be perfectly fine - the other can become suicidal or an addict or develop mental health issues (the case with my own family, myself being the latter).

I am so sick of people being judged by others because they manage to 'get on with and get through' life and some of us struggle. How dare they.

You are entitled to pity, you are entitled to cry out for and ask for help. You're human and it is your right and whoever said that needs a royal boot up their ass.

Great answer!

Also some people just don't know what depression is. It's also a very toxic, stressful thing for friends and family to see you suffer through. Its best to go to somebody who does understand and somebody who wants to help. Even if its at $90 an hour-- not that any of us have that much. I'm just saying professional help is different from familial.

The "pity party" argument just proves that that person is a bad person to speak with in regards to your problem.

 

[WildCherry]

Quote:
The "pity party" argument just proves that that person is a bad person to speak with in regards to your problem.

I totally agree with that quote. It's okay to ask for help, and I hope you reach out here.

 

[Petal]

Good question, I don't know the answer. :dunno:

I hope that the person you turn to will be understanding and supportive. Perhaps a counsellor might be the best person to tell first, that way you definitely won't be rejected or accused of seeking attention.