A Message To All Girlies OUt There

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by flayflow, Jul 28, 2009.

  1. flayflow

    flayflow Well-Known Member

    As some of u know
    im pregnant.

    i just wanna let you all know, its not what its cracked up to be.

    im not getting any hours at work.
    money wise...im fucked.
    house wise...im fucked.

    luckly my guy is still with me and we're both excited.

    i just wanna warn you that i thought it was going to be magical to have a baby. Im 17... Its not. its a struggle and i dont want other girls my age to do the same. its hard work and very expensive.

    think before you do.

    - but i wouldnt change it for the world, i love this feeling-
  2. mandyj101

    mandyj101 Well-Known Member

    hi flay ..
    sorry 2 hear things arnt going great .. i thought u were alot older .. u sound v mature :)
    its great u have ur boyfriend there with u .. he must be a special guy ..
    i really hope things work out .. im sure they will.. u are a very caring and intelligent person .. u will be a great mum :hug: x
  3. xan

    xan Chat Buddy

    This could also be a message to guys not to get a girl pregnant if they're not as ready as her boyfriend to help...
  4. just.me

    just.me Account Closed

    Well now you know...
    next time think twice before having unprotected sex
    or having sex at all before legal age
  5. xan

    xan Chat Buddy

    Rather harsh... she said that she didn't regret it just that she wanted to warn people that there is more to it than you think at first and also 16 is the legal age in the UK
  6. mandyj101

    mandyj101 Well-Known Member

    yea .. that isnt that nice :/
    just.me is prolly havin a bad day ..
    as i said above im sure u will make an awesome mum :hug:
  7. just.me

    just.me Account Closed

    i know its harsh
    but its very irresponsible thing what she done
    her baby may suffer great deal because of it
    and most of it is her fault

    sorry if im offending but i tend to be harsh when it comes to education
    plus i know girls in the same position in real life
    and those of them who dont have parents, loose their child!
    and why? because they wanted to have 20 minutes of joy...
  8. mandyj101

    mandyj101 Well-Known Member

    this is flays thread and the subject shouldnt be turned in2 a debate ..
    im sure she didnt intend there 2 be one ..

    lets leave it there .. x
  9. christian_1990

    christian_1990 Well-Known Member

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  10. mandyj101

    mandyj101 Well-Known Member

    thats a horrible thing 2 say!
    im only continuing 2 reply so flay doesnt take offence .. this shouldnt turn in2 a debate as i said b4 ..

    im guessing ur 'just.me' under a different user name .. just leave it be ..

    hmm u changed ur msg ..
  11. cult logic

    cult logic Staff Alumni

    Shouldn't it be common knowledge that having a baby is a lot of hard work? :unsure:
  12. wheresmysheep

    wheresmysheep Staff Alumni

    :agreed: and is why i never want one
  13. flayflow

    flayflow Well-Known Member

    I am only warning people and they are allowed theor own opinion.

    Yes what i did was irresponsible but i wouldnt change it for the world. it will get whatever it needs and will have 100% love and care.

    jsut cuz im 17 doesnt make me a bad parent.
  14. Dragon

    Dragon Staff Alumni

    I'm glad you're happy flay :) I'm sure you'll be a great parent.
  15. just.me

    just.me Account Closed

    yeah just dont forget that "100% love and care" wont feed your baby
    or provide him with all the needed medical treatments
    or a roof over his head

    and christian is not my other account
    i dont know who it is and what did he said (as he edited it)
  16. PandorasToybox

    PandorasToybox Well-Known Member

    Yeah, and just.me I bet you are just a PERFECT person..:dry:

    Flayflow I'm really glad you spoke up =) Age does not determine the maturity and abilities of a person. My own birth mother who between the ages of 22-40 managed to abandon 5 children...so age means nothing.

    I wish you all the best and you have my support !
  17. flayflow

    flayflow Well-Known Member

    Why are you so sour just.me.
    im warning people because I Thought it wouldnt be that hard, just as many girls out there think so too...

    the child will get everything. we ahve a roof over its head and we have enough money to buy food, if not then the food has formed inside me...its called milk ffs.

    my mum was 21 when she had me. she struggled but she was a single parent. Im not
  18. just.me

    just.me Account Closed

    its not about you... its my personal issues with sex i guess...
  19. Bubble

    Bubble Well-Known Member

    Im glad that you accept carrying a baby is difficult and realising the financial issues of having a baby can sometimes be difficult which is why when many young women have babies they pass them off to family members or adoption because they realise the 100% attention and nuturing care they need which some people are able to accomodate.

    If you are serious about being a mother there are groups and parenting courses you can take to help you become the mother you want to be for your child :) There is no shame in taking these, because in reality why wouldnt anyone want to give their child the best care they could?

    Ive found pregnancy to be amazing and bringing up my children to be an absoloute pleasure and gift to me, Im also considered to be a 'young mum' but that has meant nothing to me, as I always say age is just a bunch of numbers :p
    But parenting isnt always easy, just this morning i had toast thrown at me :laugh:

    If you ever need any advice/ need to chat Im always around somewhere, usually in chat. Let me know :)
  20. kurenai

    kurenai Well-Known Member


    I admire your courage, and maturity in this really demanding situation, and I wish you all the luck in the world. My two cousins both had their first children at 15 and the second ones at 17 and 19 respectively, and I know it was extremely hard for them, even though their boyfriends helped. Be careful, don't let others put you down, and enjoy this wonderful new person on the way.