a paper and a pen

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  1. muslim

    muslim Well-Known Member

    al salam alaikom

    many of times i feel like i am under huge presssure
    depressed from work life money............etc

    some one give me an advice he said take a PAPER AND A PEN
    and write

    i feel depressed from..
    and begin to write
    u will c that all u will write r small things dont deserve that depression

    and all things r ok
    then think what r the things that made u happy last week

    ohhhohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

    now i am fresh again
     
  2. theleastofthese

    theleastofthese SF Friend Staff Alumni

    Sometimes I do just that: write on a piece of paper the things that are driving me mad, and on the other side, the good things with which I am satisfied or pleased. Nine times out of ten, the list is far longer on the negative side than the positive. So for now, I've quit making lists because they're always heavily on the negative side and I don't need to be reminded of all the negatives in my life. I experience them every damn day, over and over, til I could just crawl in a hole and stay there.:sad:

    most definately the LEAST of these
     
  3. ~Nobody~

    ~Nobody~ Well-Known Member

    Oh sweetheart... :hug:s for least :flowers: x
     
  4. muslim

    muslim Well-Known Member

    dear least

    i am sorry for what u feel
    but what i can tell u and myself

    look at the bright side of ur life

    it is enough for u that u help people in that forum
    and take their hands to the right way

    u r so good

    and that is enough
     
  5. theleastofthese

    theleastofthese SF Friend Staff Alumni

    Thank you for that. But for me, being "good" to people here or elsewhere is NOT enough. I haven't the means to provide for my family as well as I ought and my kids keep demanding things of me and always reminding me of my faults, which I don't need to hear from them as I already KNOW my faults and don't need to be reminded of my failings by my young immature inexperienced ignorant hateful children.:mad: But - sigh - they love to remind me anyway.:sad:
     
  6. Fluffy

    Fluffy Well-Known Member

    Muslim - although I understand what you are trying to say, i think very often the things that make us unhappy and cause us pain ARE big things, very big things. Very often it is not as easy as listing them and realising that they are small things not deserving of depression. But I agree with you that writing a list of good things, positive things, is a very therapeutic exercise. No matter how short the list is, or how simple the things on the list are, being able to see and be reminded of the good things can help sometimes.
     
  7. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    I second that! :hug:'s for Noddy and :hug:'s theMOSTofthese :wink:
     
  8. Ziggy

    Ziggy Antiquitie's Friend

    I think that there are a lot of things that trouble me, some are big things and some are small things, and to me if I can feel more positively about any of them I will improve the quality of my life.

    I don't want to write a list of the bad things, I don't want to speak of them to myself or to others, because I'm trying to remain positive, so I think it's important to try and see what is good because although it may not fix things or cure things it surely makes things a little better.

    So for example, I can say I've never been in a relationship. To me that's fairly trivial. There are obvious bad things which I don't need to mention but there are good points also. For example I live a simpler life, have fewer responsibilites, I don't need to be concerned about what family thinks of me or how I would deal with a family crises etc. etc. Thinking like this helps, maybe not a great deal, but a little bit is better than nothing
     
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