Hello, I have a question about psychoanalysts and money. I am not sure where it is the right place to post this. I apologize if I am posting in the wrong forum. Perhaps, it is just a minor question of “having good manners” for some people, but I tend to be very absent-minded (especially nowadays) or I have never considered it a big issue, for example, to buy something and let the money on the counter, table, whatever the place where the other person can easily take it, and wait for the change (in case they have to give me some change back). Perhaps it is because I think things will go quicker if I leave the money instead of waiting for the other person’s hand to leave there the money, or perhaps I just want to avoid human contact as much as possible. No one has ever said to me something about “you have to give me the money in the hand,” except for 2 psychoanalysts. I do not have good memories of the first psychoanalyst who said that to me, some years ago when I was a teenager. I think she did not help me during the treatment. I stopped seeing her because I thought I was wasting my time, money and I thought she did not understand me. Then, some years later, I met a “systemic” psychologist. I adored her. She helped me a lot, but we think that we have reached a point where she cannot help me any longer. It is like she has “run out of ideas.” It was like she could help me in the short term but not in the long term. When I think about Freud and psychoanalysis, bad memories come to my mind. Psychoanalysis is very popular in my country and almost all psychologists are psychoanalysts. They seemed to be the only ones who can help me to find a “long-term solution.” I don’t know. I started seeing another psychoanalyst some months ago. I also started to think she didn’t understand me. She said things to me like “perhaps in careers of social sciences (hummanities), it is easier to make friends than in hard sciences” (???) What? “perhaps, it’s the chocolate you eat that has lecithin of soy that it is bad for your health” (it’s not because of the lecithin that I feel sad, I’m sure of that). Those are the kinds of things I can remember she said. Silly things. I don’t remember her saying anything about where I should place the money. But I thought she had no clue. So I stopped seeing her. And now my new therapist is also a psychoanalyst. I tried to forget my prejudices. But when I left the money on the table, she said: “you have to give me the money in the hand,” and I had a bad feeling. I know there is some symbolism in giving the money in the hand, but I do not quite understand it. I guess it is about “showing you really care about giving the money,” but the thing is it is not “really” my money, it is my parents’ money, so there is a mix of embarrassement... I do not know. I only know that I felt bad when she said that. It made me remember the first psychoanalyst and think that I do not want to be treated by psychoanalysts... I do not know. Is this thing about money very related to pschoanalysis, isn’t it? Is it no coincidence? Or is it that some people consider it good manners and that is all?