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A question.....not sure if I am the only one that feels this way or not.....

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by tacoper8er, Mar 16, 2015.

  1. tacoper8er

    tacoper8er Member

    As part of the road of my mental downfall....I am divorced.

    Since then....and its been a bit over a year since we separated (14 months), I am just not interested, sexually or emotionally in another person....like anyone...no sparks...no feelings...no nothing.

    Is this common when someone is severely depressed?

    Thanks in advance for your comments
  2. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Eccentric writer, general weirdo, heedless heathen

    I think it can be a common feeling if you are depressed. I have been depressed for a long time, and the longer I am alone, the less I desire to be with anyone. I think depression can cause loss of interest in many aspects of life.
  3. Acy

    Acy Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense Staff Member Safety & Support

    Diminished interest in sex/romance/relationships seems to me quite "normal" (whatever that is) after a break up/divorce. Generally we need some time to grieve and process that kind of loss and we might not be interested in a social life for a while.

    If you are concerned, talk to your doctor, who can diagnose if it's grief after the divorce, depression, or something physical. (And there are some easily fixed physical things that can make us have symptoms that mimic depression, such as not getting enough iron in our diet...and all that's needed is iron tablets and a better diet.) At any rate, the doctor can figure out what is happening and offer treatment suggestions.

    All the best with this. :)
  4. ScarlettHurts1990

    ScarlettHurts1990 Active Member

    It's not unusual at all. It's been 7 months since I broke it off with my fiancé and I still cry myself to sleep every single night. I admit that after the break up, I did fall for someone else but I think it was only a distraction from what I was going through. Since then, I haven't looked at anyone that way. I've been asked out a couple times but have no interest in it at all. I don't think I'll ever get over my ex, so I don't see the point in looking for anyone else. I know she was the one. But, anyway, it is normal not to get emotionally or even physically aroused by someone after a traumatic event like a divorce.