a rant...sorry...

Discussion in 'Let it all out...' started by Wonderstuff, Sep 23, 2006.

  1. Wonderstuff

    Wonderstuff Staff Alumni

    This is only partly a rant. I wish clothing manufacturers would standardise sizes!!!!!!!!!
    Not just for clothing, although it can be so annoying to go into a store, pick up one top in two different sizes and then find out that neither of them fit you...it's a "Yay!" moment if you can get into a 10 but a "Grrr" moment if you have to go to a 16...
    So annoying.

    But even more annoying than clothes, is the bra sizing. I ranted about this on Afterdark last month, but I thought I would just keep it here this time since it's not so much a debate as just ANNOYING me.
    This time last month, or slightly before, I went to Marks and Spencers looking for a 34DD bra. I came out, after being fitted by a saleswoman, with a 34E. Then, a couple weeks after that, it was suggested that I go to La Senza because they also do a fitting, to check that that was the true size. I was fitted there and they told me that their bras are slightly small made, and that they did not have a single bra in the whole store big enough. They only go up to a size F (and they are an UNDERWEAR shop!!! Argh).

    And so today I finally did what I've been threatening to do for a couple months now, and headed to Glasgow's Ingram Street, and Bravissimo. They do bras in all sizes from D to JJ and so I was confident that I could find one :)
    And I did. Actually, I found two.
    But the thing is - they weren't 34E. They weren't even 34F.
    They were thirty TWO friggin FF!!!
    What the hell is going on?!?!?! I would love to just go into a shop and just be able to pick up something and be SURE IT'S GOING TO FIT!!!!!!!
    :mad:

    Sorry. My mum's been on my back all day. Basically I'm very expensive to keep. The two bras, prettyful as they are, cost a combined total of £49, and I got two books for uni which totalled £41.
    Ugh. If I was a normal size and not trying to be something that I'm not, she could have saved £90. I don't know why we're even doing this anyway. She's all, "Oh I'm so proud of you!" yet I can tell she's really worried that uni is going to make me start cutting again. Jesus, I wish.
    All I hear is "Come on" "hurry up" "You still haven't done this" "You always do that!" "You never do this in time" "You're a bad friend" "You should wear make up" "you need to eat less".
    I know, ok?!?! I know that I do all these things that I'm not supposed to, or don't do things that I'm supposed to! And I know that that makes you think I'm a bad person! Everyone on here is so nice and so friendly, I love you guys :grouphug: but I don't understand how you can tell me you see good things in me when my own mother can't, isn't even willing to look past the outside.

    I talk too much. I spend too much time online. I'm always talking too loud. In cars I put on my radio so I don't have to listen to them talking, sometimes about me. I KNOW that she thinks I'm fat. She keeps saying I'm not, that I'm healthy, that we have completely different builds. That I would look unhealthy if I was as skinny as she used to be. Yet she still keeps telling me I need to eat less, or I'm going to end up the size of a house, and that she was "seven stone four (102lbs) when I got married, and I was 24" and I've been this size and weight for two or three years now.

    I think she's ashamed of me :( Jesus, why does it have to be me? You know how many times I wished that one of her other babies lived? That she hadn't had that miscarriage; or that my sister hadn't been born without kidneys? That I'd never been born at all, because after losing two children before she even saw them, what could I be but a big disappointment where there should be hope.

    I don't know. Maybe one of them could have been the daughter my mother wants. She's gone through so much I can't put her through more. So I can't tell her...can't kill myself...can't fucking do anything.
    Just annoy them and cost them money and make them ashamed that they even have a daughter.

    Sorry.
    Turned into more of a rant than I'd intended.
    Sorry.
     
  2. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    I hear ya hun, I am a 48GG......I dunno if you guys size the same or not but I can in no way even fit part of one of my boob in a DD.......no way, I can't even find a place with sizes upto what I need, only one catalog with one bra that comes in the size and it's even a little too small cuz it's a sports bra and doesn't come up enough, and clothes.........don't even get me on that crap....can't ever find shirts that my boobs fit in right, plus I am fat a supposid BBW :dry:

    and when I went to dallas, Texas.......went to a specialty shoppe, for bra's.......and guess what they said they didn't carry bra's that big :dry: :mad:

    NOT FAIR NOT FAIR :::grumbles::::::


    anywho, I am done lol
     
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  3. me_

    me_ Guest

    :hug: to both of you!
    I am having problems when buying bras too, not because of the size, but because I want simple - no cup, no wire, no nothing. And where I live it's really hard to find those. :mad:
     
  4. somberlou

    somberlou Member

    I know how you feel only in a different way. see I have two completely different cup sizes. i have one really tiny breast and one huge one that just hangs. it is impossible to find anything that fits and i can't afford to go to a specialty shop. so i buy what will halfway fit the big one and the other is lost in it cup. not to mention that i look like a freak in my shirts because i am so lopsided. ive tried inserts but they dont make them big enough to make up for my teeny boob.:eek: :eek:
     
  5. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    awww :grouphug:





    xxx
     
  6. Spikey

    Spikey Senior Member

    I don't have the bra problems, (34c) but i get the feeling about constantly costing my mother money................. aaaaaaaaaargh. i'll stop before i start really ranting