So, my new partner found out this weekend that I have self-harmed recently. He reacted well; supportive, sympathetic, wanting to help. Now, I'm used to being told, when I express a need or desire to hurt myself, that it's 'silly' - in the sense that when I feel sad or depressed that I should be even nicer to myself to help me feel better. I have found this helpful in a way, that it encourages me to think more rationally and validates my feelings in a less overwhelming "its a sadness that can be comforted" kind of way. So I wasn't surprised that New Partner did the usual "promise to talk to me before you do it" - a promise I have never given because I'm not sure I'll be able to keep it - but he followed it up with something new: "if you really need to, perhaps we can agree before what you will do and limit it for safety" Now this is a brand new concept for me. A brand new kind of attitude. Thoughts? Feelings? Opinions?