Is it normal for someone who has had an abortion, to be; asked if they want a photo of the baby to be given a remembrance packet with the baby's footprints, weight, height, etc To be asked repeatedly and even later called, to find out about burial To be asked the name for the death certificate (not only at the time of the abortion but to later be called) I don't need any judges here, i am simply seeking facts. We don't need to get into a discussion of when life begins etc blah blah. i'm just wondering what a normal procedure would be. ...and no, the mother and father did not want an abortion. The father does not even agree with abortion to begin with, but he did believe he needed to be supportive, and now feels he paid for the murder of his child especially after what they went through. They were both left feeling suicidal. It was quite traumatic, even more so in light of their youth, the above experience, and they had no clue what was happening. Fuck, and of course the secrecy of it all which only serves to breed guilt and shame.