I grew up in a home with a very abusive father, when my parents split, it was no diffrent on visitation days. I havent seen him since i was 16, i here hes the same way with his other kids from his secound marrige. I guess my question is why dont people see what there action do to there kids. I hate my sperm donner and would kill him if i ever seen him, and he knows that. So why would he be the same way knowing he lost his 3 sons becuase of what he did before.