Discussion in 'Rape and Abuse' started by Snoboardin_Girl, Dec 5, 2007.

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  1. Well... Here is the story. My dad died in 9/11 and after he died, my uncle began spending more and more time with me because he said i was the only part of my dad left. After about 2 months of this "Quality Time" he began to do other things... fondling, fingering... :( . after a few weeks of that, he began to rape me. this went on until a year ago when he killed himself. in the letter he wrote to me, he said that he couldnt live with himself anymore.. this is my fault... :'(
  2. lil-sis-one-of-two

    lil-sis-one-of-two Well-Known Member

    First I am sorry for the loss of your farther

    Second It is in no way your fault, you did nothing wrong.

    He is the one in the wrong not you. Please dont blame your self.

    If you need to talk I am here.


  3. it is my fault... i didnt stop him... :(
  4. I just wanna throw up... i hate my life
  5. lil-sis-one-of-two

    lil-sis-one-of-two Well-Known Member

    How could you stop him he is bigger and older than you.

    I have been in a similer situation my aunts husband used to abuse me (Although not as bad as you)

    Do you have Yahoo we can chat?

    He is the one in the wrong in no way should a person ever do that to you, he is a very bad person and in my opinion he deserved everything he got.

    It is not your fault I promise you.

  6. mc_soccer_girl_2010
  7. i just fell guilty
  8. lil-sis-one-of-two

    lil-sis-one-of-two Well-Known Member

    Hi ya,

    Hope your feeling a bit better today (Not so sick)

    Sorry I must ov missed you last night, let me know your ok.

    I enjoyed our chat yesterday, I think your a very special person.


  9. ((((((((((((Sno)))))))))))))))))))
    Condolences on the passing of your father. My heart goes out to you sweetie.
    Your Uncle was so wrong. There is no responsibility here that belongs to you!!
    He carried all that on his shoulders. How dare he take advantage of a grieving family member!!! How dare he aT ALL!!!!!!!!!!
    I'm sending you lots of safe hugs and prayers,
    against the current
  10. thank u... sooooo much... i just feel horrible
  11. RySp123

    RySp123 Guest

    I can't imagine how you must feel. Loosing your father, grieving and a family member taking advantage of the situation to gain power over you that was in the weakest shape possible. I agree with all. You have no fault in his death.... I dont know how he has phrased it in his letter to you, but perhaps he meant that you were and would have always been a reminder of his fault towards you and the family and that he couldn't face what he had done.... that is the feeling I have.

    The best thing you can do for yourself at this point hun is to try to forgive his soul so that he can find peace in the afterlife and for you to let go of a grudge (absolutely normal) and free yourself for that chain that will prevent you from finding peace and happiness again in your life.

    be well and stay safe hun

    you deserve it

    granny x
  12. Emo_kitty

    Emo_kitty Account Closed

    we are so sorry for the lost of you Dad

    your uncle killing him self wasnt your fault what he did to you wasnt your fault
    he was the one who choiced to kill himself he was the one who choiced to abuse you

    none of this is your fault

  13. altek001

    altek001 Well-Known Member

    as with the others, i am sorry to hear about your father. mine is no longer alive, either.

    what your uncle did is too dispicable to properly verbalize...and though you were the..recieving party of his actions, it doesn't make you guilty of his suicide. it is the ultimate result of his first decision to rape you. it is all on him. not you.

    ...thoughts and prayers.

    - Henry
  14. Christianv2

    Christianv2 Well-Known Member

    What he did was selfish and cowardly. He abused you and made you believe that it was your fault that he took the easy way out on life. Try to move on, feel free to talk with special people you know if you feel comfortable about the situation and not let him ruin what you have in life. Always know that your special.
  15. Will

    Will Staff Alumni

    From what it sounds like, is he was prety broken up over your dad's death, and he used you as an outlet for emotions. I think deep inside, he felt wrong for doing what he did. But that is NOT an excuse to do so. What he did was wrong. It was not your fault. Because in the end, he was a victim, and he made you a victim. Whether or not he realized this and came to conclusion that he did, you were not at fault.

    I'm sure there were alot of other things that were going on in his life, and alot of other factors. But it wasn't your fault, it was his fault for doing what he did to you.

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