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Abuser is successful, I'm traumatized

undercoverlover

both dead and alive until somebody opens the box
#1
Title says it all. It really doesn't seem fair. He's a successful doctor doing cutting edge treatments and "helping" all these people but I'm stuck completely traumatized. And I'm not the only person claiming abuse. I unfortunately know many of his former patients who now suffer from PTSD. I'm reporting him soon and since he already has a reprimand on his license, hopefully the board will take a little more action and restrict, if not completely confiscate, his license. He has conditioned so many of his current patients, who then insult me for speaking up. I'm just so frustrated and I wish I knew how to feel better about this, but even filing a complaint with the medical board is making me anxious. I was going to pursue a lawsuit for a while until I started having nightmares about seeing him again. I know if I ever saw him again I wouldn't hesitate to get violent since he obviously had no trouble doing that with me. I like to tell myself that while he may have a successful career, he's probably empty and lonely, but I wonder if that's even true. I'm having a lot of trouble finding the courage to report him, even though I know that's indirect and I won't have to see him. It's just the idea of reliving what happened so I can tell my story, and then when they investigate the case, he'll know I reported him and come after me. I'm justifiably pretty terrified and I feel stuck.
 

HumanExMachina

A known unknown
Staff member
Safety & Support
SF Artist
SF Supporter
#3
The abuser is successful at what? Being a bullshit artist? He has to live with himself. He can bullshit the world, but he won't ever be able to bullshit himself. That's his personal and private hell. Simply being himself. Report him. Stand up and say what you need to say.

Afterwards, remember that you aren't trapped in his personal hell. That's his problem. You're free now in this beautiful and limitless and amazing world. Leave him behind. Outgrow him. Forget him. He's less than a bug under your feet.
 

gypsylee

SF Supporter
#4
He can bullshit the world, but he won't ever be able to bullshit himself.
You obviously haven’t met my ex.. He makes bullshitting (himself and others) an artform.


Hi @undercoverlover

There was a big drama in Australia a few years ago after a female doctor blew the whistle on male colleagues for sexual harrassment. It started with another female doctor saying something about giving in to sexual demands being beneficial to female doctors’ careers.. Then the whistleblower exposed this whole culture of male domination and sexual harassment among the medical profession..

https://www.theage.com.au/national/...-harassment-in-hospitals-20150311-141hfi.html


While I was looking for that I saw this, which I know nothing about because I avoid the news these days..

“Australia will become the first country in the world to introduce a tough new system to protect patients from medical professionals who have been accused of sexual misconduct.

An independent review has found the current system is outdated, paternalistic, fails to meet community expectations and should be abandoned.”

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-04-11/changes-ahead-for-doctors-accused-of-sexual-misconduct/8435160
 

Walker

Everything Zen
Staff member
ADMIN
SF Social Media
SF Supporter
#6
Things on the outside aren't as they are on the inside. Just like with all of us. He's "successful" but he's a bag of shit so...
 

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