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Discussion in 'Rape and Abuse' started by *dilligaf*, Apr 4, 2007.

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  1. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    hes here
    staying for dinner
    got hours of him
    i cant cope
    cant breathe
    wanna be sick
    OMG i CANT do this
    dear god,
    someone help me
     
  2. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    Sam, be exactly that...sick!! Excuse yourself you have a foul headache, the runs, vomitting...whatever it takes to get out and be able to stay out. Retire to bed and be an invalid..BUT GET AWAY !!!! :hug:
     
  3. Scum

    Scum Well-Known Member

    Ok,

    Take some deep breathes, in for 4, hold for 2 and out for 5.

    There are things you can do to make yourself feel safer, you can keep something with you that makes you feel safe (ie a teddy or something). You can keep your phone with you. Also make sure you are not alone. Stay with someone you feel safe with.

    Alternatively you could go to a friends house for tea or just spend a while there.

    Have you ever told anyone what happened to you? Maybe you could?

    If you want to PM me or poke me in chat or anything then feel free.

    Hang in there. Keep reminding yourself you are safe.

    Take care
     
  4. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    Terry, i have hidden upstairs for a bit. Ive an hour before grant gets here...one hour to cope alone. xx

    scum, the breathign is a bit better thanks. i have not told anyone in my family what ahppened. and i cant. my nan is too ill. im trying to stay online until he leaves so i have someone around me. xxx
     
  5. Scum

    Scum Well-Known Member

    :hug:
     
  6. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    hang in there Sam we're here:hug:
     
  7. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    thanks both :hug:
    ive spent time with him many times...why is today so hard??? :unsure:
     
  8. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    Cos you have been talking about it and letting it out.
    I went away on holiday year in year out with my abuser (didnt have a choice had to go) but as soon as I told someone what had been happening I couldnt be within 5 mile of him...weird eh:unsure: :blink:
     
  9. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    oh hun, you're so right,

    sorry you went through all this too :hug:
     
  10. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    It will all come good Sam, think only of yourself you have to do whatever makes you feel safe and when you are ready (and at some point you will be) you will face this bugger and demand an explaination as to why he did what he did!!
    I hope he has the bottle to face you and explain himself and you can get some bloody closure on the whole thing.
     
  11. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    :hug:

    me too hun
     
  12. jupiter202

    jupiter202 Well-Known Member

    Im sorry, I dont really know your story...but I can kinda get the gist here.....

    Exactly what the others said.....get AWAY...fake you are sick, ANYTHING to just to not be near this person.

    Do you have to see this person frequently?
     
  13. starlight2006

    starlight2006 Well-Known Member

    Hunny you've done it - u have got thro it. you are a lot stronger than you think - big hugs! :hug: xxx
     
  14. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    thanks all

    and starlight is right...i DID get through it :)
     
  15. starlight2006

    starlight2006 Well-Known Member

    U did hun and you deserve a million :hug:
     
  16. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    :wootrock: WELL DONE the Sam!!!!!:flowers:
     
  17. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    Thanks both of you.

    You two, Vikki, Scum, and Grant are getting me through this slowly.

    Love you all :hug: :hug:
     
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