Hey Has anyone else had just the worst time of their life getting over an ex who was abusive? I mean, it should be simple and easy to rid your life and your heart of someone so disrespectful who hurts you in every conceivable way. Someone so profoundly selfish, who did everything within their power to destroy you and make you into little more than their emotional punchbag. And yet...unless you've been there, I don't think people realise the power a manipulative person can have over you. And then, of course, there is the problem of *love*. Cursed emotion wasted on someone who isn't even capable of it. The feelings are complex, people stay and leave for a whole number of reasons. For me, it was survival. If I didn't walk away when I did, there wouldn't be a Muffin anymore. I have been through hell and back to get over him this year and finally I can feel my power returning. I wonder though, will that aching, that deep-seated tender agony in the pit of your soul, does it ever go away? :/ What have been people's experiences?