I wanted to point out a program that holds promise for those of us who suffer excruciating pain as a result of shame and abandonment issues from our childhoods and families of origin. I attend weekly meetings in Seattle and am working thru the ACA 12 Step Workbook. It is a very painful process for me, but one I was driven to after losing my 20 year marriage. http://www.12stepforums.net/acoa.html Also, the author, John Bradshaw has written a number of books on how to heal from shame. His works are available on Amazon. I hope this helps some of you who are desperate and searching for answers. There is hope of recovery from desperate times.