Hey,
I think that maybe because your problem is quite specific not so many people will immediately relate? So they will read, sympathise and hope/ assume someone who has some experience of this will reply and offer advice? Then your thread may get bumped down the list as new ones are added?
I may be wrong but it seems logical to me. I can relate in a different kind of way, as my son doesn't have any physical scars that make him stand out but he has Aspergers which has always made him different to other kids, has at times isolated him and made him stand out.
It's always made me over compensate, love him a little bit more, over protect him, worry a lot. It was manageable when he was a child he developed natural coping mechanisms, it all went to pot a bit when his Dad died.
The only thing I think I could advise is that you try to socialise him as much as possible when he's young, try not to over protect him, he will naturally learn coping mechanisms which will stay with him as he grows up and will be invaluable to him. Kids are much more resilient and adaptable than us. Try not to project your fears and worries onto him, he will learn them from you if you're not very careful? You'd be doing him a great service
Sending compassion and hugs, of course it's understandable that you're so fretful, he's your child and it's your job to worry, but try to be strong for him and not let it show?
I'm not sure if anything I've said will help and that's another reason why people take a while to respond sometimes, we worry we won't be of any use
Nikki x