I know that there are people who probably do just wallow in self pitty, but how do you know which is which? When does depression stop and self pitting begin? Or vice versa? When is it no longer depression and it is just self pitty and maybe even attention seeking? Or vice versa? Maybe even a combination? A hard question to ponder and i think the answer might depend on how you are feeling at the time. The lower you're feeling the less likely you are to see yourself as anything but a pathetic loser who just can't deal with anything. While when you're feeling better you might see yourself as really having a mental disorder that is very hard to deal with. Lots of people tell me to just just get over it. Stop being so pitiful. So what you lost your girlfriend, just find another one. Well, what they fail to understand is that it is beyond me. There's a dash of self pity here on my part, but how do i know it is also genuine depression? That's because no matter what i do, the depression sucks me right back in. Being positive doesn't work. It's like a maggot eating me alive. "Haul your lazy ass up"????? Unbelievable. i have been criticized all my life for being "lazy" when it was actual depression, not laziness. It sucks the fun out of everything and anything. Depression saps your energy and can go as far as immobilizing you. I have a habit of going to bed when i am depressed. Sleep is nice and numb and i get to lose a few hours where I don't have to deal with stuff. The problem with this is that i avoid doing stuff that I need to do, and going to bed never, ever makes me feel better later on. So I know deep down inside me that when I find myself back in bed, I'm wallowing. Trying the best i can to overcome my sadness. Slapping my ass to get better and yet still fail, now that's depression. How about you guys?