addicted to sex & hookers

Discussion in 'Self Harm & Substance Abuse' started by dreamwarrior, May 18, 2008.

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  1. dreamwarrior

    dreamwarrior Active Member

    I have an unusually high sex drive. I can have sex 7-8 times a day and will even masturbate 5 minutes after having sex. Two years ago I started seeing prostitutes and now am addicted to them too. It's bad because I don't like condoms. I got tested for std's and am getting my results tomorrow, but I've had to stay celibate for the past week while awaiting results.

    All day I think about sex. I look through escort ads whether I call or not, and want to spend the rest of my money going on a trip to where the hookers are cheap, such as thailand or costa rica. I've spent about $4000 on them already.

    I want to go out like nic cage in leaving las vegas. Drink and screw my way to death.
  2. Christianv2

    Christianv2 Well-Known Member

    I think this is actually a pretty common addiction, but its just so taboo that it isnt discussed. All I can suggest is see a sex psychiatrist who can try and help you. I can understand you urge and I hope you get through it somehow.
  3. Fishman

    Fishman Guest

    hmm well its probably the best of addictions.
  4. Go to Vegas man, just go into any strip hotel, they are sitting there waiting for action.
  5. possessednomad

    possessednomad Well-Known Member

    i don't have this addiction, but i have friends who do - i think this is also just as common in women too? not wanting to use condoms is something which makes this worse obv, but when did it start?

    do you enjoy watching porn a lot (as in A LOT, more than most people.). dw if you do its not necessarily something you could have prevented, but there are ways of avoiding infections etc and getting help to lessen and stuff.
  6. dazzle11215

    dazzle11215 Staff Alumni

    okay, i know this is a serious topic, and all. but if i got to to pick an addiction... this would be it... i'm just saying....
  7. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    I've dealt with sex addiction my whole life.
    It's the hardest addiction to get rid of because like, you can't get rid of your dick hahaha

    But just like any other addiction there's a root cause to it. Sometimes I wish I were addicted to cigarettes because then I could just keep myself away from them.
  8. ggg456

    ggg456 Guest

    if you think it's purely to do with something physical like high sex drive, maybe a doctor could suggest something to help?

    emotionally though- there's a rush perhaps? a cycle that you're used to. the whole process of either masturbating in perhaps a fixed way, thinking of fixed things, or the emotional processes involved in going places picking up women, etc.

    i think with any kind of self destructive, hard to break cycle there's anxiety involved. there is something you're either trying to get, trying to fulfill and trying to escape.

    it might be helpful to think of a few things-
    -do you want to look at your cycle closely- the processes that you go through- although it might feel really compulsive at the moment, there are emotional processes that are working, although you might not be aware of them when you're in the whole thing

    -is it purely physical your need to masturbate and have sex with sex workers, or are you craving some sort of emotional connection with the women you have sex with but it's perhaps safe to go down that route- where the contact with these women will be temporary?

    -your relationships with people in general, your intimate relationships

    -you mentioned alcohol which again might be an important thing to consider and might be linked to everything you're going through
  9. lifeisashedog

    lifeisashedog Well-Known Member

    Try to convert from sex-addiction to alcoholism. It is simpler and cheaper.

    Or marry a woman with the same addiction :bunny::rose::bunny:
  10. VALIS

    VALIS Well-Known Member

    Best advice ever. I could not in ten million years have articulated myself so clearly. If this is a serious cry for help, I advise you to take ggg's suggestions and run with them.
  11. mixedemotions

    mixedemotions Forum Buddy

    im a woman and i also suffer from sex addiction. i know how it feels. it takes over your life at times and i often find it hard to cope with the feelings, causing me to be depressed. i dont really understand how this happened to me, but it strange.

    if you ever need any advice im here. im very open about it, bcoz it is some thing i need help with my self.
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