I could really use some advise and/or suggestions. Would you mind? Here's an attempted abbreviated history. Six years ago I had let go of the few friends I had (they were toxic to me). I didn't care if I met more. Well, about a month later an entirely new group of friends came into my life. They were simply amazing. I never could have imagined ever having such amazing friends. They didn't use and abuse me like the ones I had let go. They were a critical part of my getting through an extremely difficult period in my life. Then last year things began going wayward, at least in my life personally. I had learned about a bad valve in my heart that had gone undetected for 38+yrs. Six months after the discovery it was time for surgery to have it replaced. During the surgery there was an exceedingly rare complication - my aorta dissected in the descending part. It might go without saying, but initially it was very scary not really understanding it all. I was in the hospital longer than I was initially told to expect due to the complication, and yet during my entire stay there NONE of those friends came to visit me. One person sent one email checking in with me. They always came off as extremely caring. Is it unreasonable to have been so hurt by no one visiting? I (kinda) brushed that off, and continued to hang out with them. Then in Oct last year my best friends son killed his wife then himself. This was something we totally didn't expect!!! Well, when I mentioned this to the other group of friends they began to be hesitant around me. Now I have pulled away from that group of friends. Haven't been around them in months now, and I admit they don't know I've been hurt by their reactions. Am I being too unreasonable by letting them go out of hurt associated with those situations when for five years they were incredibly supportive?