My wife told me this morning that I'd hurt her feelings last night without even realizing it and then cascaded into things I'm doing wrong, making her feel like she's doing more work in the relationship, having to be prodded into doing things that make her feel attractive or loved. I responded by not responding, which she took offense to. I was married before and this sounded very much like the conversations I had with my first wife, and a relationship in between my two marriages ended with her taking offense to me not having anything to say because I didn't want to make things worse. We're in serious financial trouble with no thought as to what we'll do if some unexpected expense comes up. I am unemployed with no close friends left. We've estranged ourselves from our parents. The last time I felt this close to doing something irrevocable I went to my parents but my wife has scolded me for "telling them too much about our business." The thoughts of doing something drastic are coming with the uncontrollable crying, and I have to fight them away.