Okay so there is this guy that asked me out, the only problem is that he is alllllot older than me (btw im 13). He is really nice and he genuinly loves me, which I really need right now.
Do you think I should go out with him?
Whoa he's 21? And you're 13? :S
Can I offer you some advice. Don't date anyone 16 or older right now, and I honestly think 16 is pushing it big time. Honestly, try and date people around your age.
I don't know how say this to you without coming off as rude, but I hope you read this and then have a think about it later on to see if you understand where I am coming from.
You're a teenager, still in high school. I don't want to say you're just a kid, because you are more than just a kid. You're a person who is living your own life and going through your own joys and issues. You're equal to everyone else, and you matter just like everyone else. You're entitled to everything like everyone else.
Within reason.
With that being said, You have to ratioanlly understand, you are still a child. No matter how aware and intelligent and grown up you may feel, or may be, You are still a very young person. To stick to a physical aspect, your body is still very much growing in itself, let alone your experience in life.
He is 21 years old. It's not so much the year difference, it's the time in your lives that is the massive issue. You are just growing up, youre just experiencing things yourself and exploring your own feelings and life.
He is... has already done this. Through his own ways and whatever, he is an adult. There is no justification for anyone that age talking to you in this way. This is manipulation at it's finest or extremely pure ignorance on his part. But more than likely even if he played the ignorance card, it's another aspect of manipulation for him to get what he wants. And believe me, if he actually "loved" you, he would .. well for starters he'd have the brains to not talk to you or anyone your age. I can guarantee you it's not you who he cares about. That fact may hurt, it may not, but it's the truth, and im sorry to be so blunt about it.
There are lines that you need to draw for yourself, to protect yourself.
You do not need an adult in your life like this to feel important or to feel validated for who you are. Or to share who you are in any shape or form.
Ug, im rambelling, it's difficult to write something that will get you to stop and see this flat out for what it is. I would highly suggest doing something that seems overboard and dodgy, and that is going to the police or at the very least, informing your parents or someone that you trust.
It's to protect you, and ultimately anyone else that may get into his way. Even if he's just ignorant to the situation, he needs a refresher into what he is doing.