Ah February again

[Ieatotters]

I am only just starting to get over the Christmas self esteem hit, and today the Valentine's capitalism emails started rolling in. It feels like I'm stumbling from one reminder of my failure to another and the breathing space in between is getting shorter and shorter each year. This one says I am too broken to deserve closeness, then Easter to be told I am not good enough because we don't throw some party, then school holidays in case I have forgotten how bad a parent I am because we can't afford (or go on even if I could pay) holidays, then back to school to really rub in the maternal failure, then we are back in lonely wastrel mode for Christmas. In between there will be any number of random "national #whatever day"s which just remind me of all the things I haven't done right. It is making me crazy.

 

[Dante]

We all have thing sin our lives we did "wrong", we all have periods in our lives where it feels like we have stumbled and will never right ourselves, but things can change quickly, and in the meantime, make fun of it I suppose. Like Valentines day, do what I used to do: Watch horror films on Valentines day make an evening of it, do the most unromantic things possible as a bit screw-you to that shity corporate machine which tries to make you feel bad if you havent paid out a more than youre comfortable with for whichever woman you feel closest to.

Couples enjoy the excuse, but valentines is really just BS. There is no set day to give love, and no set day to feel bad about not having it. SO boycott the hell out of it :P

 

[Ieatotters]

We all have thing sin our lives we did "wrong", we all have periods in our lives where it feels like we have stumbled and will never right ourselves, but things can change quickly, and in the meantime, make fun of it I suppose. Like Valentines day, do what I used to do: Watch horror films on Valentines day make an evening of it, do the most unromantic things possible as a bit screw-you to that shity corporate machine which tries to make you feel bad if you havent paid out a more than youre comfortable with for whichever woman you feel closest to.

Couples enjoy the excuse, but valentines is really just BS. There is no set day to give love, and no set day to feel bad about not having it. SO boycott the hell out of it :P

Yeah, when I was younger we used to have boyfriend bonfires and decapitate roses 🌹 it's a pity my friend isn't here any more 😭

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Even though I'm part of a couple, I have to admit I don't really like Valentine's day either. It's really just another celebration of consumerism. My husband isn't the type who buys me a dozen roses or a big box of chocolates on Valentine's day - he's the type who is thoughtful every day and will bring me home a flower or a muffin or other treat without a reason (and I do the same for him). We've never had the funds for expensive gifts or grand gestures.

A few years ago I went to buy myself a few chocolates at a local chocolate shop, and I forgot it was V-day. It was downtown and the store was packed with males in suits buying huge boxes of chocolates costing hundreds of dollars. The same guys will probably be shelling out for dozens of roses and a restaurant meal. Men feel like they have to do this whether they can afford it or not, and women feel that if they don't receive such things they must be inferior, even though (in my experience) most women don't want the temptation of a huge box of chocolates that they will eat too many and feel guilty.

So on V-day whether you're single or coupled it should be okay to just cook a nice meal or watch a favourite movie or take a bubble bath or read a novel. Or all of these. And if you want chocolate have some, or a rose. The main thing is to value yourself, whether someone else values you or not! The true meaning of any holiday should not be buying stuff. My 2 cents anyway.

 

[Ieatotters]

The true meaning of any holiday should not be buying stuff

100% right. It's not about gifts, it just makes me think about things I usually distract myself from in order to function.