My mother died 14 years ago. Well, it'll be 14 years ago in a week's time. It happened when I was 6 years old, so I barely remember her. My dad has never got over it. He's been an alcoholic for as long as I remember. He pushes everyone away and won't let anyone help him. He has ruined his relationship with me. Everyone has tried helping him in pretty much every way possible - but he doesn't seem to want help. He just turns to his booze - and of course then everyone has to face his drunken wrath. He sometimes cries about her when he's had too much to drink (which is often), and he'll go on about how he's slept with 100's of women since, but none of them matter, and that he never cared about any of them. He says he wishes he could trade places with her. He's had loads of doctor appointments but he never goes to them. I'm moving out because I can't be around him any more. I've done everything I can to help him, but he's driven me away and has done some things that I can't forgive him for. But despite us having no relationship, I still want him to be happy. Can anyone relate? Whether to me or my dad?