Lets just say that these were the only two options on the table, keep it as simple as possible. So lets just say that the only chance I'd ever have to "get a girl" would be to get an "arranged" marriage with a girl from my native country of India in which my family would help to find her. Again, lets also say that the primary reason she is attracted to me in the first place is because of the fact that I am a U.S and Canadian citizen. She would want to come abroad for perhaps a better life. I know there's actually many happy arranged marriages where both of them don't love each other at first, but later onwards, the love blossoms and comes forth. We also hear of so many love marriages, especially here in the West, where the two may be high-school sweethearts, but as the years go by, the love fades and the marriage crumbles and divorce happens. Marriage truly feels like a roll of the dice no matter what type you get into. I would rather have an arranged marriage where we don't love each other at first and if we still don't love each other and break up, its not that bad. We didn't lose anything. I'd hate that we are madly in love at first and marry and the love fades and dies as the years pass by and we have a bitter divorce with lots of emotional baggage and loss from before. I feel that I still have some "pride" left in me and that I can never do this sort of marriage. Being raised in the U.S, it just doesn't feel compatible to me at all. I feel that even if later onwards, we love each other like crazy, I will always look in her eyes and think the only reason she was with me in the first place was for an ulterior reason and that would forever nag at me. Of course, anyone would rather a girl be with me for who he is inside, not what he possesses. But so many men go for the "mail-order bride" route, when they cannot get a woman in their own home country, I know I'd be far from alone in this. I know there's no way this can have a straight answer, as there's so many variables involved, I just wanted to hear some opinions at least. Any thoughts? Would you choose this option or to live the rest of your life "alone", by never having any romantic or intimate relations with a girl, which I have never had so far yet? This is geared towards someone who, lets assume, complete, 100% failure with women and has a 0% chance to attract a girl in his home country or anywhere else with his own charm and charisma? Lets say that his immigration status is the primary (or main) reason a girl would even give him the time of day to begin with?