I've lived alone almost all of my adult life, although I have a cat. I'm not able to work because of PTSD and physical health problems, so I rarely meet people. When I do, like in yoga class, I either don't make friends or meet guys who would like to date but don't want to be 'just friends'. Since I've been working very hard in therapy about abuse in my past, I'm not interested in dating right now. I usually go out with someone a couple of times and realize that we have little in common. I've tried book groups, spiritual groups, and various classes, but I can't seem to break through the barriers of shyness [or maybe fear] that I have. I read that being lonely isn't a longing for people, it's a longing for people you can connect with....and there don't seem to be people like that in the real world. Most of my jobs have involved communication, and when I was younger I spent a lot of time dating or going out with friends. I'm not sure why I shut down like this; it had already started when my boyfriend died almost 8 years ago and it got worse after that. I'm not sure why I'm posting, but it's late here and I just wanted to talk. Thanks.