Am I being stalked? :'(

[Earn]

i hope that this guy will leave you alone. thats kinda scarry.yeah you should definitly block him from everything.have you told any of your friends about what he is doing? i think telling the cops wouldn't hurt.its a good idea.

 

[nagisa]

That is really scarey that he has been convicted of those thigns. You need to do whatever you have to to keep yourself safe. Your friend should be warned. He sounds soooo obsessive. He sounds SCAREY.

 

[A_pixie]

I haven't even met him...he's just suggested over msn he come and see me and I told him straight that I don't think it's a good idea but the response I got was "BUT I REALLY REALLY LIKE YOU AND NOW I'M HAVING A PANIC ATTACK!!!!!!!" I only unblocked him so I could put this right and now he's going mental!!!!

I then told him I've gone off men for life ANYTHING to get him to stop asking awkward questions! Told him I'm thinking about dating girls when I'm not...he's telling me now "but I really like you" and how he's having "a bad panic attack"

I feeel like having a damned panic attack msyelf...

At least I've told him though...he signed off as "OK I'll message you later when you're not confused"

I feel sick.

 

[Fishman]

well listen once you have said you don't want to talk to him that it, don't talk to him again. He's preying on your feelings and worries about hurting him and from the sounds of it he is very experienced in knowing what buttons to press. DON'T HAVE ANY FURTHER CONTACT WITH HIM NO MATTER WHAT and go to the police to report the matter of harassment, once they have the matter recorded if it continues they can do all sorts of things to keep you safe. If you feel uncomfortable about going to the police yourself get a relative to go with you or for you. Keep a copy of all these messages as they are clearly obsessive and show dates and times and the frequency.

 

[A_pixie]

I've messaged him back to an email he sent me saying "i'm freaking out because I haven't met you it's driving me nuts" I just told him that I'm not interested, I have my eye on someone else etc...

He has to take the hint from that surely!!!

 

[Earn]

hopefully he will get the hint from that.he needs to give up.you should keep blocking him,so he wont start geting at you with his messages.

 

[Hurted]

I've messaged him back to an email he sent me saying "i'm freaking out because I haven't met you it's driving me nuts" I just told him that I'm not interested, I have my eye on someone else etc...

He has to take the hint from that surely!!!

I hope that he will

:hug::hug:

 

[A_pixie]

Thank God he's backed off...I had to lie about ym sexuality but it worked! He still wants to be mates n meet up but I'm a bit weirded out :S

 

[Hurted]

Thats great!:hug:

 

[blackening]

its good that hes agreed to back off, but, and not assuming you would, i wouldnt meet him even "as friends".. you dont know enough about this person to put yourself in such a potentially dangerous situation..

i think severing all contact with him is the best course of action..

stay safe

 

[A_pixie]

Oh boy...it just got worse

he knows a mate of mine and has just told her he's got us tickets to go to a gig (without asking me) and that if I'm looking for somewhere to live later (whaaaaat???!!) when I move out he'd be happy to get me a job!!!! Is this some sort of a cruel joke??

...I'm seriously starting to freak out I mean I could avoid this guy if my friend agreed not to speak to him anymore but she's a bit naive and thinks he's "sweet" and I'm not the sort of person that gossips about people, not only that but I don't want her to get in trouble with him...

I also don't want to take away any of his friends incase he's just a bit persistant, but a lot of people on here have said my suspicions are justified that there is something sinister behind this...I really don't want to hurt anybody but I suspect he's stopped messaging me not because he's got the hint, I mean he wouldn't be offering gig tickets if he had! I suspect he thinks the messaging thing hasn't worked and he is trying another tactic. I politely told him I couldn't make it and that i hope he finds someone to go with but then he responded as "but we could cause so much damage to the world together!!" I don't wanna cause any damage and this is really weirding me out!

He's also currently after a friend of his, a girl, and keeps posting bulletins about how he's obessing over a few people... and has told me she's thinking of dumping her boyfriend for him "depite liking him as nothing more than a mate at the moment" this guy is honestly on another planet...it hurts me to say this as I know what it's like to really, really, want someone but it's not as easy as "just stop talking to him" as I'm worried about my naive friend who seems to think his behavior is nothing short of endearing!!!

There is no way in a million years I would meet him face to face, but my friend does and he acts pretty regularly in front of her...I have no idea what's going on

sorry for the length, I know people have much worse problems than this but I'm just a bit lost

 

[Fishman]

Fits the stalker profile perfectly I'll Pm you some info, when I find the links. :smile: