I really don’t have any great of grand advice or wisdom for you — )I wish I did!); so I should probably stop typing now. . Z but I think we both know that that’s not very likely!!!
ok 👌 having no idea 💡 or clue what exactly is going on inside your partner’s head (& really only he honestly knows, and there’s even a chance that he’s not 1000% fleshed it out, to the point where he could articulate with any great degree of accuracy to him self: in other words, he may know how he “feels,” but not how he “thinks,” in its entirety - or vice versatile!).
What I have found over my vast experience with others, some extremely / exceptionally close; is that there can tend to be a “shelf-life,” to the amount of this sort or type of talk their willing to accept. In other words,’once yu pass that point, or go over this threshold; they are suddenly ready to “jump ship!” So-to-speak; in terms of their willingness to be there for you, with their undying/unconditional loving 🥰 & overwhelmingly positive support. This can turn on a dime or an instant—or so it seems to us, (when in reality it has probably been shifting within their own minds for quite some time). That is to say📲📲that there is a progression here to this, or it...
You have to try to put your self in their shoes. Thus can t be fun stuff to talk about, or exciting / exhilarating territory to explore: sure , maybe it is in the beginning, but over time, thus felling subsides, or begins to recede & fade away. And with it, very often - their enthusiasm, shall we say, to five in and help to save you. . .
What I have found can be incredibly frustrating, is how so many times, they will feel that they know (for the most part) that they know & understand full well that they know what you’re going through. In the sense that, “yes! Hey - you know what? I’ve been suicidally depressed before; & I may have even thought very seriously about it, or possibly even considered goin through with it — in my own mind (that is, “passively~”)... but then! Eureka. They figured it out, conquer Ed it: that which you cannot! And moved on )clearly not “chronically so!..”
Also possible: they don’t know how to help given the gravity of things, which means they don’t know what to say (which is usually what they’re worried about), and therefore, would rather not say anything at all, for not only may they say the “wrong-thing!” (Which could do more harm than good...) but also they then in their own minds become “active-participants,” in the matter. Accomplices, if you will!
sound like somethjng you’d like signing up for? If you had truly no idea or clue what was going on with the other, and this reality makes it very difficult to try and find the right language to speak to connect with, or find any sort of common ground. There is a nother problem. That of having, “played this game before...” And here we go again! I already gave you my best effort last time, and quite possibly the time before that, and the time before that! . . . & at a certain point: they feel as though they’ve run out of material! They are exhausted. And don’t know what to do? That’s really it, in its simplicity: they don’t! Know what- to do...
so what are they supposed to do? What might help manage your troubles or navigate these particular difficulties? That’s what I’d tell him. Thus is what I could really use from you. I know it isn’t fun. But that’s what could really help me, is if you just (fill-in-the-blank). And of course I forgot the second or last part of that; which I feel was the more relevant or critical ... Tory of my life- :/( . . .) also doesn’t help I’m listening to some tool try to explain he “caged,” system on guitar 🎸 on YouTube - which I have no interest in & the news on the insomniac channel / network is competing / conflicting with that or thus. I can usually blend thing s together and not have it affect me; but thus her is not appearing to be in very good harmony. May have to put ear buds in for some music 🎶 bleep this bleep (not you!) my mind and it’s inability to focus... & the n there’s the neighbors!!!!!!!!!!
Anyway(s)— ;^) that’s all I got. /9aorry_.?