Lately I've been feeling that there is no point to hoping for a steady relationship. I'm glad that I didn't end up with any of my exes, none of those would have been healthy. (Drugs, alcoholic, narcissist, neglect/verbal abuse. In case you were wondering.)
While it's nice to imagine finding someone, I really don't think it's possible. My personality type is INFP, and I have lack of faith in finding someone that understands me. Even now, I can list so many that misinterpret me. My cousins husband hates me,even more when I try to be nice. I don't get it. At work I say something or share something and most of the time I'm belittled, or worse, completely ignored. I can barely manage to find quality friends and keep them, let alone finding a steady relationship.
My interests are incredibly diverse, and finding someone that can keep up with me? "Good luck" my inner critic says. I love concerts and music festivals, hiking, canoeing, traveling, walking around shopping districts, animation, painting, reading, staring at the stars at night, the list goes on.
When I'm with someone, I've usually "given up" some of this to accommodate the other person because they've wished me to, we don't have the money/time, they don't enjoy it, many reasons.
I'm tired of doing everything I can to make it work, only to end up breaking up. And why should I change who I am? Why settle for someone that can't handle me as I am? I'm so conflicted. Giving up relationships seems freeing, yet somehow I cling to the fact that I feel so incredibly alone and crave a person to share all these awesome things with.
It hurts.
While it's nice to imagine finding someone, I really don't think it's possible. My personality type is INFP, and I have lack of faith in finding someone that understands me. Even now, I can list so many that misinterpret me. My cousins husband hates me,even more when I try to be nice. I don't get it. At work I say something or share something and most of the time I'm belittled, or worse, completely ignored. I can barely manage to find quality friends and keep them, let alone finding a steady relationship.
My interests are incredibly diverse, and finding someone that can keep up with me? "Good luck" my inner critic says. I love concerts and music festivals, hiking, canoeing, traveling, walking around shopping districts, animation, painting, reading, staring at the stars at night, the list goes on.
When I'm with someone, I've usually "given up" some of this to accommodate the other person because they've wished me to, we don't have the money/time, they don't enjoy it, many reasons.
I'm tired of doing everything I can to make it work, only to end up breaking up. And why should I change who I am? Why settle for someone that can't handle me as I am? I'm so conflicted. Giving up relationships seems freeing, yet somehow I cling to the fact that I feel so incredibly alone and crave a person to share all these awesome things with.
It hurts.