I met a man a year and a half ago. We had sex the first time we met. Almost every time he came over to my house we had sex. He was always making promises about taking me places and never following through. I never went to his house. Friends told me he is a player. So many times I ended it with him and he always talked me back. When I tell him how much he hurts me, he says that it hurts him to hear me say that. But he doesn't change his behaviour. In our off-times, I have dated other people, and he has always thrown this back at me. Last fall I ended it again and that split lasted six weeks. Then we had a passionate night of talking and fighting and he said that he loved me. When I came back after a two-week holiday, he didn't see me for a week, then ended it with me. That very day, I lost a family member. I tried to contact him but he wouldn't pick up the phone. Just before I got on a plane to go home, he texted me, saying that he had just received my message. When I got back, he turned up for a few days, then disappeared again for two weeks. He turned up again, then was off again. Even as I write this, I know that I have been used and lied to and manipulated. But a very stupid part of my brain keeps saying that he does love me, but he's afraid to show it. I have ended it AGAIN, but I know in my heart that I'm just waiting for him to show up. How do I end this cycle? How do I convince myself that this man doesn't love me or care about me? I need to free myself from him, and I don't know how.