Anger,Hate,Guilt,Self-loathing,Rejection, Insecurity,Sexual Mania,Loss. I have had all of these recently. I am trying to workout if a person is born evil and there is no stopping this. Or maybe they have been influenced by their past too? At what point are we allowed to accept and forgive a person for the wrongs they have done to us? If we don't, then its you and me that carry these emotions. Some might say a person never deserves forgiveness. So does that mean we can never forgive ourselves too? Especially if it was not our fault in the first place? I am confused on this issue at the moment. Say someone did bad things to either of my children, im not sure i could control myself, the desire to take revenge would be too strong. But what if that person who hurt my children was once hurt themselves? What if that person had been conditioned and just couldn't change? What i am asking is............... does a person have to be just plain thick not to know they are doing wrong............ or do they know, but their lust is in control not their mind? "Sorry" is just like any word, meaningless without actions. Do we need to hear the word? Do we want to see proof of the word through actions? Or do we ignore it all anyway, choose to forgive and hold our own hearts for letting go?