Discussion in 'Welcome' started by tassie devil, Mar 5, 2009.

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  1. tassie devil

    tassie devil New Member

    i guess i should start with , my husband of 26 yrs committed suicide 3 weeks ago , after a short time of depression and promising both myself and our daughters and doctors he had no suicidal thoughts , he decided in the early hours he couldnt go on any longer and <Mod Edit - methods> , i found him like this , a sight and vision that will haunt me until the day i die . no note no explanation ,
    just me left with the aftermath of what he has done ,, having to tell my daughters , trying to think of what was going thro his head at the time , what was he thinking to leave so much behind , no money probs and a family who adored him , i guess i just need to know why , i guess i never will know why .all i can hope for is that he has found peace .
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  2. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest

    damn, so sorry hun
    this must have broken your heart and your daughters.

    well, welcome to the forum, i hope we can support you and help you thru this tough time.

    anytime you need to talk then i am only a pm away.

    be strong

    andy x
  3. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    OMG how absolutely dreadful :sad:

    all my thoughts and prayers go out to you and yours :hug:
  4. shades

    shades Staff Alumni

    ????the haunting questions!!! I know its not the same but I lost my best friend at age 30 some years ago. All I did for days was ask why? He also left no note and there were very few signs of trouble. He had a great job and friends and was also a writer in the middle of a pretty good book. He was shopping another. All these years later we (friends and family) still talk about it and still don't know why. Just a few ideas which don't make sense. I've talked about that here at SF and about my own problems. All I can say is that I've found some solace here, maybe you will too!!! Stay awhile and see! Feel free to send me a PM anytime.
  5. ~Claire

    ~Claire Well-Known Member

    I'm very sorry to hear about your husband.

    Thinking of you & your daughters :hug:.

    Claire xx
  6. Wow, that must be so awful for you :sad: Having that picture in your head probably every day. Then having to tell your daughters, and I am sure they are devastated too. I really hope things get better for you soon. It may take a while but you will get there eventually.

    And totally irrelevant but is your username tassie devil cause you are from tasmania? If so well so am I :smile:

    Lke everyone else I am also here if you want to pm me.

    All the best of luck,
    Amanda xxx.
  7. mdmefontaine

    mdmefontaine Antiquities Friend

    oh...i am SO sorry for your loss. . your children must be devastated.

    i can't say anything to make it better. nothing, will make it better.

    lean on us if you can. lean on me, and you can pm if you want honey. even if you just want to vent. . .
    we care about you! :hug:
  8. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    I am so sorry to hear about your husband. You may never find the answers to your questions, but be assured that it was nothing you or your daughters did. So often the survivors settle in on the thoughts that they should have done something differently or that it is in some way their fault. The choice solely belonged to your husband, and for unknown reasons, things became too much for him to handle. depression will trick our minds into thinking there are no other options available to us and the only way to stop the hurting is to die. I hope you are able to find support and maybe a little further understanding of depressive thoughts here from us. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. :hug:
  9. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    Welcome to the forum!! I am so sorry this has happened. My thoughts go out to you and your daughters...
  10. shazzer

    shazzer Well-Known Member

    Welcome to the forum I am so sorry to hear about your husband. There are no words that will ease your pain right now but I am thinking of you and your children :hug:
  11. Starlite

    Starlite Senior Member

    Welcome to SF
  12. crookxshanks

    crookxshanks Well-Known Member

    welcome x
  13. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    welcome xx
  14. tassie devil

    tassie devil New Member

    Hi all and thank you , each day is bringing more light i am sure i will be ok i have to for my girls they need me now .
    Amanda yes i am from tasmania
  15. xan

    xan Chat Buddy

    Welcome to SF...
  16. liveinhope

    liveinhope Well-Known Member

    Hello Tassie

    Welcome to SFyou must be going through a aterrible ordeal, and the pain very raw,i am so sorry to read about your loss if you feel you would like to talk ill be happy to chat with you so do feel free to pm me if you feel it might be ofhelp

    take care
  17. Acy

    Acy Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense Staff Member Safety & Support

    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I hope you find the support you need here. I'll be thinking of you and your girls.

  18. artikchill

    artikchill Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry to here what happened. Welcome to the forums and if you ever need to talk feel free. We all have been through the same or similar things, so please feel free to get it all out in the open.
  19. Rosenrot

    Rosenrot Forum Buddy


    I hope you can find the answers you need.

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