I've been dealing with depression since before xmas, I'm feeling a little bit better, but xmas knocked me off my feet. Yesterday I sort of had a bad day, this is kind of a long story, im going to tell it as well as i can. I started talking to my son's family last year for the first time in 12 years. I love his father's family but I sometimes have a hard time because they don't want to admit that his dad had anger issues, so I have to tread lightly...... Anyway my son was supposed to meet his dad for the first time in june, but unfortunately his father passed one week before he went there. But he got to meet everybody and had a great time.His uncle was nice enough to buy his airplane ticket. Well his uncle sent my son a pair of nice tennis shoes around the first of january. It was so thoughtful and I was so happy for my son. Then I called the uncle, I was going to put my son on the phone to say thankyou, but he said " I have some bad news ". Well I have only talked to the uncle maybe 5 or 6 times since I started talking to them again, and this is the second time that he has told me " I have some bad news". first for his dad and now his only aunt has passed away, and my son was really taken by her, he talked about her so much, she made my son feel so special . To make everything worse my bf and I just broke up, my 2 best friends moved out of town, and my really good friends, who were my neighbors for 2 year's started doing drugs, lost their kid's and moved also..( that really hurt me) So when he told me about the aunt I cried and cried and cried...... I just went into a depression for about two weeks, just waaay too many things happening at once. all my support (friends)gone, son's auntie passed, boyfriend went back to Cali, leaving me with bills, and son's father passed in june..i just went into a complete meltdown. When I get like that I can't talk, I don't know why, I figure people have their own problem's and they dont need me sobbing to them also. And I just started talking to them again and I'm almost having a nervous breakdown. So now I call him yesterday, I was going to ask him something and say thankyou and he say's, "hey you haven't thanked me for the shoe's, sent me a card or nothing, people usually say thankyou and u need to teach your son that". Well now I dont know what to say, do I tell him that I've been having a nervous breakdown the last three weeks, i cant tell that to someone that I just started talking to again, or should I, should I tell him everything that's been going on? I am so upset because before I called him and he said " I have bad news " again, I was going to send him a very nice thankyou card. So i just started sputtering and got off the phone. I don't want him to think that i'm unappreciative, I thought that I was being considerate and giving their family some space and time to grieve. I didnt think that it was appropriate to send a thankyou card for shoes when his only sister inlaw just died, am i wrong? I sent the brother a condolence card, and I emailed some of the family, I didnt know what else to do, was I wrong?