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Anyone resigned to the fact that this is the way they will always be?

#1
Hi...is anyone here just resigned to the fact that there life will just be like this from now on...a daily freaking struggle? I mean meds and therapy can only help so much....it is just so much work to ‘live’....personally I am not used to it but I need to become adapted to my new ‘normal’ as the other alternative is not good.
 

Przym

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#2
Pretty much.

I mean, my existence has basically been this constant pattern of negative emotions + escapism + stagnation, and I don't see it changing for the better in the foreseeable future, especially considering the way real world events have been impacting our lives.

Looks like another possible WW3 scare on the horizon, as well, so, I'm pretty much just sitting back and taking on a "Whatever happens, happens" outlook.

 

Walker

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#4
Sometimes the realization that this is how you are isn't a terrible thing. Life changes. Things are different. You juggle the "new new" and deal with things as they are. You're not the same as you were 5 years ago - you were never going to be and none of us are. I get that you feel that "this" you is feeling terrible - no one is saying you don't - but learning how to deal with these struggles is important to moving on with your life now.
 
#5
Sometimes the realization that this is how you are isn't a terrible thing. Life changes. Things are different. You juggle the "new new" and deal with things as they are. You're not the same as you were 5 years ago - you were never going to be and none of us are. I get that you feel that "this" you is feeling terrible - no one is saying you don't - but learning how to deal with these struggles is important to moving on with your life now.
Love your response! Great way of looking at things...it’s all in the attitude I guess. It’s a bit tough when things were so good 5 years ago but I guess that is the past and we can only move forwards. Awesome response....thanks.😁
 
#6
yes, I've been thinking of that all day and feel awful. Cant stop crying. It feels so hopeless. I realized I literally cant remember what it feels like to be happy anymore and thats so scary and horrible. I dont want to live in this reality and I'm tired of everyday, week, month going by and things being the same. More pain. In general I accepted my life is the way it is years ago, and I actually managed to make peace with it never being great and just managed to be content with what I have, but this year has been so painful it's worse than ever and I can't be content like this
 

JMG

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#7
Yes. The more time I'm here (as in, alive on this planet) the more I realize how much better it is to strive to find a way to accept that certain facts of life suck and are despicably unfair as hell. Seems to be a lot better to just not resist life as much as possible. I do all I can these days to just not get sucked into feelings about anything, it sux to not feel the good ones as much but it doesn't ultimately feel worth it when the down ones are so extreme. It is just too draining, have never really had a high energy level anyway and getting caught up in bs nonsense only makes it even worse. I try to just focus more on the things I'm grateful for and that make me happy and that does seem to help a bit. Makes life feel a bit more peaceful and bearable at least. :)

Sorry to both you and lost in a fairytale that you are feeling so hopeless about things, you both seem like nice, kind, caring and good people so I really hope you will feel better and more hopeful soon. :) *hug
 
#9
Yes. The more time I'm here (as in, alive on this planet) the more I realize how much better it is to strive to find a way to accept that certain facts of life suck and are despicably unfair as hell. Seems to be a lot better to just not resist life as much as possible. I do all I can these days to just not get sucked into feelings about anything, it sux to not feel the good ones as much but it doesn't ultimately feel worth it when the down ones are so extreme. It is just too draining, have never really had a high energy level anyway and getting caught up in bs nonsense only makes it even worse. I try to just focus more on the things I'm grateful for and that make me happy and that does seem to help a bit. Makes life feel a bit more peaceful and bearable at least. :)

Sorry to both you and lost in a fairytale that you are feeling so hopeless about things, you both seem like nice, kind, caring and good people so I really hope you will feel better and more hopeful soon. :)*hug
*hug thank you
 

Jsinjin

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#11
Hi...is anyone here just resigned to the fact that there life will just be like this from now on...a daily freaking struggle? I mean meds and therapy can only help so much....it is just so much work to ‘live’....personally I am not used to it but I need to become adapted to my new ‘normal’ as the other alternative is not good.
I was just posting about this. I have been trying some.of the best therapy and meds money can buy for years and I always come back to the fact that I can't reconcile my situation through just willing to be better or looking at life a different way. I know this works for a lot of people but it just hasnt worked for me. The pain and depression are so real and I pray and do the things my therapist suggests and take the drugs my psych doc prescribes bit it always comes back. At the end the truth is I want my last 25 years back to do over, I don't want to reframe how I see the world. I try and try that but it doesn't cure the aches and pains and wishes that the phone wouldn't ring or the world wouldnt need me so much.

I don't want a gone to self harm and I don't want to either but I sure want the pain to stop.
 

Autumn1973

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#14
Hi...is anyone here just resigned to the fact that there life will just be like this from now on...a daily freaking struggle? I mean meds and therapy can only help so much....it is just so much work to ‘live’....personally I am not used to it but I need to become adapted to my new ‘normal’ as the other alternative is not good.
Well said. Maybe this is why I've been having such a hard time lately. Maybe I'm finally accepting that what I'm dealing with is my new normal. That it is a lot of work to just live. That I need to get used to this, but thinking of what I have to get used to is draining. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but all I can tell you is I think I know what you're going through because I can relate to what you posted.

At least we all have each other to reach out to. That's comforting to me. Maybe knowing this is will make it easier for you, too.
 

Autumn1973

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#15
yes, I've been thinking of that all day and feel awful. Cant stop crying. It feels so hopeless. I realized I literally cant remember what it feels like to be happy anymore and thats so scary and horrible. I dont want to live in this reality and I'm tired of everyday, week, month going by and things being the same. More pain. In general I accepted my life is the way it is years ago, and I actually managed to make peace with it never being great and just managed to be content with what I have, but this year has been so painful it's worse than ever and I can't be content like this
It is scary, it sucks, our own realities are horrible. It's becoming more difficult for me to remember happiness, too. I wish I could write something to help you stop crying. I wish I had answers. Maybe a big hug will help *hug
 

Autumn1973

Looking for people who will accept me for who I am
#18
I really want things to improve before new year but I dont know how likely that is :(
thanks, your reply made me smile *hug
Maybe we improve our lives by remembering how much we have the potential to impact each other's lives. Knowing that I made you smile made me happy. You made me happy by letting me know that I made you smile. We made each other smile. Maybe that could be our New Year's Resolutions? Sending messaged to make our friends smile? :)
 

Champagne

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#19
I definitely have resigned to the fact that I will always suffer from crippling anxiety but as long as I'm medicated and have therapy I'm cool with that. I have been suffering long enough, it would be bizarre to awake one day and it all just be gone but I do have a good periods of doing extremely well and other times not so well. It's just the way I am. I like to help others struggling too, that's the plus side of it, I have lived through it all to have the experience to help others. :)
 
#20
Thank you for making me happy by letting me know that I made you smile. Knowing that will help get me through the rest of my day. *hug
you're welcome, sending love *hug

Maybe we improve our lives by remembering how much we have the potential to impact each other's lives. Knowing that I made you smile made me happy. You made me happy by letting me know that I made you smile. We made each other smile. Maybe that could be our New Year's Resolutions? Sending messaged to make our friends smile? :)
yes, that's a nice way to look at it :) my grandmother always used to say that if you appreciate something someone did or if you think anything good of someone no matter how small you should tell them, because why not and you could make their day. It's very true. Sometimes I feel worthless or forgotten then a long time later someone might say something complimentary to me and I think -well I wish you would've said so sooner that would've perked me up!-

 

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