Are there things in your life that do bring you joy, which give you respite from ST?

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by MotownJohnny, Jan 9, 2014.

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  1. MotownJohnny

    MotownJohnny Member

    Do you have things that help you, at least temporarily, feel better and stop thinking about suicide, stop having suicidal thoughts?

    I do, some, and it is often short-lived and I lapse back into thinking about killing myself, but it still helps at the moment.

    Some of my things I really enjoy:

    Orchids -- right now, I have 3 cymbidiums in bloom, as well as a number of phaleonopsis. I took the cymbidiums to work so I can enjoy them in the office, and they look very impressive when clients come in.

    Music -- I'm fairly diverse in my tastes, as long as it is recent, 1990s or later, but I enjoy a smattering of 80s music from time to time, since I came of age in the 1980s. I like pop, alternative, contemporary country, and certain rap and hip hop and r&b artists. Some of my absolute favorites that I play to death -U2, Bon Jovi, Green Day, Eminem, Lady Antebellum, Luke Bryan, Faith Hill, Duran Duran, Daughtry, Rihanna, Rascal Flats, The Script, Sheryl Crow, Sarah Maclaughlin, and Keith Urban. I listen almost all day while at work, and when I'm working out.

    Exercise and fitness. Cycling is pure joy, a sense of freedom, an escape from my problems. My goal for the upcoming season, March/April through November, is 5,000 miles. And I want to do my first Century ride (100 miles) - I have come close, 87 miles. I am also in to swimming, running, boxing, strength training. I want to take tennis lessons next summer (because I'm pretty sure I wont' off myself).

    My animals -- a dog, diamond doves, various fish, some firebelly toads, and hermit crabs and a tank of red fiddler crabs. I just set up the red fiddlers about a month ago, and I love them -- their antics remind me of the Three Stooges.

    Gardening -- not really the season, but I do a lot of that in season

    Cooking -- not much time for that now, but I'm a really good cook, if I do say so myself.

    Home improvement projects - a lot of satisfaction from doing things myself.

    You???
     
  2. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Writer, Musician, Fun Lover, Magic Maker

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    There are a few things that I can still enjoy that will give me a bit of relief from the sadness I'm feeling. I write every day, I make sure that I do, because I had gone too long without writing. I like to see how creative I can become, and it keeps me occupied. I like to watch movies, because I get a break from my thoughts for a few hours. Music has always been a life saver, and it can sometimes improve my mood. I used to draw and do other types of art, but I stopped...maybe I will pick that up again. I like going out and doing things, at least when it's not winter. Harder to get out and have much fun when the weather is so bad. I enjoy spending time outside and going for walks. I basically have to keep my mind busy most of the time so I don't have to think of anything bad. Oh, that's another thing I like, sleeping. Because that is the one thing that really gives me an easy break from it all.
     
  3. emily83

    emily83 Well-Known Member

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    oddly enough, johny, yesterday we were talking about my bipolar, and i got asked what it was like for me to feel high, and a little more stable

    and i said.. well, no matter what the feeling- or how i am, the feeling of suicide never goes away- the thought of your next low never goes away, etc etc

    i mentioned i liked music and stuff, and watching movies, but it never goes away... my thoughts of suicide have become far too strong- and sure, even though i've discovered a lot of new groups in the last month, it does not change how i feel about things
     
  4. Roam

    Roam Member

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    For me there is not much at the moment. More than joy I have things that distract me and allow me to take my mind away from negative toughts. As much as I can enjoy a movie, music or a videogame, I just feel it's all just escapism.
     
  5. ava321

    ava321 Active Member

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    the few things that bring me some relief are only temporary. then it just hits me again and i come crashing down. it's almost easier to just keep the thoughts instead of having that crushing feeling suddenly take me over.
     
  6. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

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    my granddaughters but i barely seem them now
    keeping busy cleaning washing ect going for walks shopping to just be out amongst people not so alone.
     
  7. NYJmpMaster

    NYJmpMaster Have a question? Message Me Staff Member Forum Owner ADMIN

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    My animals - and my family/children are either the what brings me joy or stress depending on the day and hour :)
     
  8. JustKindaThere

    JustKindaThere Well-Known Member

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    No and I'm not even gonna try and kid myself into believing there is.
     
  9. sweetles

    sweetles Well-Known Member

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    it's like you say, the thoughts/feelings/urges never go away, but a few precious things can distract sometimes. it seems like less and less things are able to accomplish that trick for me as time goes on, but sex remains one (though I don't experience nearly enough of it), and cuddling/playing with my cat Scooter is another.
     
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