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Are You A Perfectionist?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by boo, Jan 26, 2010.

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  1. boo

    boo Well-Known Member

    Perfectionism can seem like a positive thing, but it can actually be crippling, adding stress to your life and actually detracting from your productivity. Do you have perfectionistic tendencies? High achievers tend to have equally high esteem, not so with perfectionists. They tend to be very self critical and unhappy and suffer from low self-esteem. They can also be lonely or isolated, as their critical nature and rigidity can push others away as well. This can lead to lower self-esteem.
    Because a less than perfect performance is so painful and scary to perfectionists, they tend to take constructive criticism defensively, while high achievers can see criticism as valuable information to help their future performance.

    Are You A Perfectionist?
  2. cult logic

    cult logic Staff Alumni

  3. nagisa

    nagisa Staff Alumni

    Yes, I am.
  4. WildCherry

    WildCherry Staff Member ADMIN

    Nope, not even close!
  5. Remedy

    Remedy Chat & Forum Buddy

    My therapist, teachers and family think so. I think they're probably right but it's never been brought up in a positive way.
  6. Chargette

    Chargette Well-Known Member

    I used to be. It was maddening because it made life so overwhelming. I opted for proficient. I tell my kids "practices makes proficient."
  7. Abacus21

    Abacus21 Staff Alumni

    With writing assignments etc, then yes. Or as close as I can be.
  8. sammakko

    sammakko Banned Member

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  10. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    I use to be years ago.. Now I lack motivation to even accomplish the easiest of things..So I guess my anser is no..
  11. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    Yes I used to be really bad but my meds help dampen a little...
    My son was also a perfectionist and was very hard on himself right to the end...
  12. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    oh yes...it was worse when I was a child, I was thought that I should always be perfect and right...to be wrong or make a mistake was so badly seen in my family...but now Ive worked on that...I do accept critism and know that we all makes mistakes, that's what helps us understand and change...

    still sometimes I do fall under old patterns...
  13. TWF

    TWF Well-Known Member

    Somewhat. E.g regarding my grades.
  14. Vangelis

    Vangelis Well-Known Member

    In my working field, I am...but when I'm at home I'm very laidback and carefree. The more perfectionist I am while working the more profit I bring in.
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