A certain sense of peace may sometime come from sadness. It's counter intuitive, but sometime true. By turning toward positive affirmations and happy motivational uplifting messages, or worse yet FALSE happy motivational uplifting messages it can almost make a person feel disconnected from life. It's exhausting trying to convince ourselves we feel empowered and excited about life, when in reality we feel like shit. Why do we do that? Is it because we've been taught to put a band aid on our wound and figured it might also work for our emotional scars? Ever heard of the God Band Aid?.... Why do we try so hard to convince ourselves that everything is going to be swell? Is it because we fear that if we completely surrender to the feelings of pain, we'll lose ourselves completely? How about the expression "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger?" Feeling pain, for however long it might be is sometime necessary for each individual. Necessary and essential for recovery and to build resiliency. Isn't that how evolution works? Example : Any mutation must be applied to a DNA coding that already exists. It can not be applied to coding that does not exist. Is this a silly statement? Not at all. It leads to the way that evolution changes an organism. Mutations are always applied to the existing DNA coding. Evolution makes something new out of something that already exists. (ok maybe the evolution thingy isn't the best example, but i'm tired..) Whether the injury is physical or emotional, moving on too quickly under the pretense of "not wanting to let this bring you down" can be more damaging. So my question is: Is to deny pain the real way of healing? Or is it by embracing the sadness and despair of life thus leading to a peace that can't effectively be achieved through other means?