^ Great post.
I don't know, I don't like the term self-fulfilling prophecy. It reminds me of an angry social worker when I was telling her what I knew would make me feel better.
People have reasons for not wanting to try, make friends etc. It might be as fundamental as they aren't well enough to do so and/or have no desire to, are met with difficult reactions from others when they do try, they are in a difficult circumstances out of their control, or have ambivalent feelings about what they want. Pushing someone/oneself to do something when it's clearly not the right time, can lead to bigger disasters than doing what feels right for you at the time. I'm a restless person, myself and I get easily frustrated in one place or with certain people- which is probably why I am where I am now, and have travelled so far emotionally and otherwise. I didn't choose to be a restless ambitious person...:mellow:
Hiding, curling up in a ball, sleeping, are all ways of looking after oneself (which are things I have difficulty accepting atm)- and If that someone was to do anything else, it might cause them so much stress they end up in a crisis, or in a "vacant/numb" place. I am not a fan of "think postively," and cognitive behaviour therapy; I find that comes naturally when everything below the surface is working well. If you're feeling shit and anxious, you are feeling shit and anxious. Let it flow down its natural course as safely as it can, blocking/forcing it off that course can just cause bigger problems later downstream.