I just want to scream. For the life of me, I don't know why people think it is okay to bully me. I "do" speak up! I "do" say stop. So why does this behavior continue to happen towards me? I work in academia. For the past 4 years, which equates to all of my years at this academic position, I have been bullied by the known department bullies. One was assigned to be my mentor, the other actively recruited me for this position. I finally gained the strength and self-confidence to interview for academic jobs elsewhere. On Friday, I was given a tentative offer which would become final once the reference and background checks were completed. I told my references to expect a call. One of my references said that she would hate to lose me but understands why I need to leave. Hello, I'm suicidal, depressed, and physically ill due to workplace bullying. Well this person who said that she would be my reference and wrote an excellent reference, tells me that when she spoke with the other university, she gave me a bad reference. In fact, she tells me that she went into the department's dirty laundry. What a POS!!!! The dysfunction of my current department has nothing to do with my potentially new job. If I'm not telling them, why on earth would she? Bitch. Needless to say, I have been devastated since I spoke with my POS reference this morning. Why on earth would she feel it is okay to do this? The reality is that I will be leaving the department after this school year, even if I do not have a job, and even if I have to leave in a body bag. I provided this POS reference with the reasons why I'm choosing this new opportunity. These were all true and all positive. She had no reason to add her unwarranted 2 cents. I hate her. What a POS. People in the department do not like her and I have been sticking up for her. NO MORE!