It’s supposedly called the ‘Batter Being Syndrome’ where a person is abused and they don’t see that the abuse is wrong. Most times the abused have a strong emotional longing for their abuser. They may be in love with them. Most times it’s physical abuse but at other times it can be emotional and pshcological as well. The victims may know that they are abused, and deep down know that what is happening maybe wrong, but they don’t go out of their way to make it stop. To lose that connection with their abuser is too much for them to bear. Some even seek out comfort from their abuser directly after an abusive episode. I read this on Wiki….a friend of mine told me to look it up. I thought that they were joking about it. I know this last year hasn’t been all that grand, but I didn’t think that anything was really wrong. We had our few fights and what nots, but we always were able to make a mend out of it in the end. Now after reading it, it kinda opened my eyes. Like what really has been going on, isn’t right. That this isn’t right, anymore. I look at the signs now and see them. He wasn’t over-controlling like telling me what to wear or not to go out, but he was controlling at the same time. He always made sure that I knew my place when it came to him and our ‘friendship’. He would throw it back in my face everything I did wrong, every time I was wrong. It got old after awhile, and soon I began to tune him out. His little rants were just back ground noise to me after awhile. It wasn’t until that he started to do things with out me, and I was hurt that I realized that there wasn’t something right. I used to do tons of stuff by myself, and now here I am saddened cause they left me out. Oh, please, this so can’t be the real me. But sadly it is. I went from a fun and loving carefree girl to one who sits on the steps worried that he’s not coming back. That I did something to upset him. That I did wrong. The whole fight and make up thing, yep, sadly enough I’ve done it. I’ve blown up at him, and within hours, am back trying to seek some kind of comfort from him. Like what happened was my fault. Like he’s a god, and nothing he could do would ever be wrong.