...while leaving his pride intact. I'm completely dense when it comes to guys, because for as long as I have been old enough to date- I've been taken. When a guy would ask me to do something, my automatic response was; "I have a boyfriend." I've realized only recently that I am single now-- so I can't necessarily use that excuse anymore... but I am nowhere near ready to date yet. I don't even want to think of the opposite sex as potential mates. -___- I need alot more time to heal my shattered heart. I tend to give away too much information; and I don't want to be rude... So for future reference- travel to the city- hanging out at bars and so on and so fourth... how can I let a guy(or girl too, I suppose...) down gently? What's the best thing to say? Should I explain my situation- or just lie to make him feel better- and make something up? Guys... what would you prefer to hear when getting turned down? What response lets you know that friendship is okay- but sex/relationship is a definite no go?