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Discussion in 'Grief and Bereavement' started by Casey., Aug 26, 2006.

  1. Casey.

    Casey. Well-Known Member

    My friend's birthday is tomorrow. I have no idea what to do. How did you celebrate birthdays of loved ones? I think I might go down to her grave and burn a letter i'm going to write. I dont know.
    Miss her. :sad: :sad:
  2. I used to write my friend letters (kind of like a diary I suppose) throughout the year and press flowers in it and stuff and make it look really pretty * Then on his birthday I would go to our special place where he said he would always be and read it to him and then put the flowers in the water and watch them float out to sea * I still do the flowers but not the letters anymore *
  3. Marshmallow

    Marshmallow Staff Alumni


    sorry to hear about your lose

    i think you should do what you think is right in your heart, writing her a letter would be a great idea, then you can tell her how much you miss her, and if you think buring it at her grave will give you some peace then you do that, jus to do whats in you heart :biggrin:

    take care

    vikki x
  4. Casey.

    Casey. Well-Known Member

    The flower thing is a good idea. Thank you.
  5. Jenny

    Jenny Staff Alumni

    Hey there

    Just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss.. I hope you're able to get through the day safely.. and yes, the flowers does sound like a good idea :)

    Please take care and remember we're here if you need us
    Jenny x
  6. Montage

    Montage Well-Known Member

    i usually take flowers and a box of tissues to my freinds grave.... of course the tissue is for me... it always makes me feel better... just to talk and cry.. im sorry for your loss...i know how you feel...
  7. simply being there is sufficient i would think

    just my opinion, f**k it.
  8. TLA

    TLA Antiquitie's Friend

    The letter, tissue, flowers are good ideas, yea.
    I make up songs. When I was pregnant with my son, and now that we are apart, I sing him songs. It is comforting to me and I want to think telepathically he knows I sing for him. They do not have to make sense. Sometimes, I write the chorus down and it will come back to me another day.

    I like to read the letters, that would help me and to possibly place an empty envelope there. I think to follow your heart is best. I took a blanket to sit on the grass and talked to my father. It felt like he was close.