You can cut hair?? ; ) . . . There is a ‘science,’ & an ‘art,’ to that —(& I can do neither!). : ) I want to tell you something: and I’m telling you this, because it is the truth—& not just something that sounds good, or may help you to feel better... but some of the best people I have known on earth - were once on, or raised on (or raising their families on . . . ) “assistance.” So, in my book, while I don’t know what that’s like from a personal standpoint, it does not carry with it to me a very negative connotation. But rather, quite the opposite; just in knowing the quantity and caliber of character and person that I think of (when I cite specific examples: I mean we’re talking pure hearts of gold, here!) that term. It’s not derogatory to me, in other words, and sometimes, just sometimes; but not always, of course! It does just depend on how you look at it (things) in terms of, or when it comes to perspective. So, maybe that can lend you an alternative one ☝️.
on the son: here’s another one. Given his age especially—I wouldn’t be incredibly particularly worried if I were you, just based on some of my friends who, when in that given age range seemed to have legendary regular ongoing verbal warfare with their folks (usually one or, more so, than the other... almost like a rival or arch nemesis or something strange and unexplainable, other than to perhaps a psychologist; I’m sure that they could have a field day!

) . . . But that then by the time they became more settled in life. And for some this was when they graduated college, or got their first jobs, went onto graduate studies; or for a lot of them when they had their first kids (as they could then see what they’re parents had to go through, maybe- shoe now on other foot 🦶 so to speak?), things changed, or turned around completely. And in many cases / instances, they became like best friends. And that is no lie or embellishment, either- by the way! So, in short (& not so short: I suppose!); there’s hope. : ) So, don’t give up—