Different therapists can adopt, or tend to have different “styles,” as well. And by that, I mean ways they go about their business. How they do their jobs. (Their “M. O.”) _For instance I once had a guy whose approach was basically to come at you aggressively and try to break you down almost like a “bully,” within the context of what their job, & roles actually entails (from a ‘job description,’ standpoint).
I guess he felt that this was the best way to not waste any time and get right in there and get your hands dirty and start to mix things up and hope that you can lead or come to a breakthrough quicker)—
which was fine - for me -& maybe he didn’t do this for all, or even a lot of his clients/patients — as I’d imagine he’d have to adjust his style to tailor to his given person’s needs and such. But I didn’t mind the aggression / hostile approach. More so the way he’d forget facts and pretty relevant details that were not to be just glossed over from previous sessions.
It was funny, because in the beginning, I saw that he was keeping notes by jotting down (writing) by hand on one of those yellow pads / books with the lines & that you flip up over the top, of in order to turn the page 📄 as opposed to folding over sideways with regular white.
And so anyway s I’m sitting there seeing this & thinking... oh? Ok! So he’s very detail oriented as he’s taking meticulous notes, seemingly something down anytime I say anything interesting or that seem to have meaning to me. Then later on, I sort of came to the realization that this was just more so the case of how he recorded his daily notes (or whatever that record is called). And then he went and entered them into the computer, or whatever, and they got processed / filed etc. probably quickly or instantly forgotten and onto the next, clearly not overly or careful ly reviewed much prior to our next session , and so o n and so forth..
But initially I’d thought , he was keeping that entire journal or note pad for me. When in reality it was much more likely that that was what (the one) he’d used for everybody on that given day. Or however many days it took to fill it up, and then go get a replacement/or new one!
but point being, once you get into it...& I’d imagine he & his style was a more unusual/or unorthodox one ☝️ (he cursed & swore like a sailor, I’m guessing he thought this was a way of building rapport; or enduring & ingratiating himself to me, even though I don’t once recall doing the same in front of him - or his presence)z
so again, a careless calculation/miscalculation or misread, if you will, on his part or behalf.
But what I mean to address is once you get going it is intended or destined to be somewhat unpleasant or uncomfortable from time to time. As you’re presumably going to be digging up some unfavorable memories or things you’re not happy with, past present or future. And the deeper these issue are, in conjunction with how long you’ve had to deal with them, can compound in such a way as to make these experiences less and less fun. But the upshot is, once you get used to this process, that is, the heavy lifting... it gets easier —& you will then also begin to see results and benefits manifesting them selves in mental health as they are able to address things for you in a way that is very difficult, if not outright impossible, to be done on one’s own.