I decided "enough of this crap - its time to either give up for good or sort it out." So okay - I am all in favour of the proactive approach (if I think proactivity can resolve anything) so I sat down with a pen and a note book (I am a lists girl) to try to "sort it out" and after an hour or so of looking at what I want, who I am and how I feel, I have reached the conclusion that in order to even be remotely happy I am going to have to become someone else. I've talked about the BDD before so I am not going to labour that point - but surfice to say that everything about how I look has to change. Not only that though - who I am needs to change. Problem is... I am not sure what the problem is. I have looked for feedback from people and the only thing anyone is able to suggest is "you're too nice". I fail to see how a person can be "too" nice. I am not a "yes" person... I do not agree with people unless I agree; I stand up for my point of view; I will tell you if I think you're being an ass etc... so how am I too nice? That was kinda rhetorical and off the point. Sorry. The point IS - do you think its possible to become someone else? I hate this person - I genuinely cannot stand her and I sincerely hope I am not stuck with her :/ Thoughts?