Yes, I feel you can. . . And in some cases, it can be more than just on or two outside of close friends or family. In my case, however, I would have to, for the most part, and perhaps with some exceptions, limit it to just this closed set (of people). I think that can and / or could, would & should be able to trust and rely on those members of my immediate family, also to extend and include, in case it doesnāt already, both sets ā or all 4 of my Grandparents!
I would add to that, of course, about 3 supremely close friendships that I have maintained over the years. The kinds of people whose relationships have developed over time, and have a rock-solid reputation and track record to carry with them. I would say that these include, or extend to a period of ten to twenty, and in one case closer to thirty years. . . So, that coupled with my family id mentioned previously totals to about ten individuals with whom I would feel comfortable putting up on the stand as character witnesses, were I facing 15 years to life, for not being fans of the band oasis, were I hailed from Londoniom ā&it was able to be proven I. N a court of law!
j/k... in all seriousness. Though- had I had a better work history, that is to say. Length of time committed to one job at any given time (say something like 5 years of more at one pace), Iām quite certain as convinced - that I may be able to add to that number yet a few more). I may. Be able to now, how ever , given the relative short duration, or nature of work environment and condttkons presentāit is entire ly possible to chalk some of this or that good will up to too much, or too little good worth (in terms of credit built, or earned & time spent etc.)... but Iāve worked with some darn fine souls, in my past, and Iād dare say they havenāt been some of the better, if not best in some cases, people that I hav e known. Now what I have left out are the countless scores of people whom I would consider to be mediocree, liar s and cheats, and people, black hearts. Those who take comfort and pleasure in committing acts of evil onto others, or enjoy things that I would consider to. Be very much the polar opposite of the moral s tat I ws raised withā id say the key is allowing your self the freedom (to say, āits okay š to...)) trust some one āļø-in the first place. If or once you do that - then you can begin to develop a mutual b on d that may lead to a place where youāve got a lifelong friendship on your hands. And the. Those bonds can be built upon to where youāve reached or attained a limited stratosphere in which you feel you can rely on one another. I doubt very sincerely that there is anyone on my list Iād mentioned earlier, that just manages to. Break or reach double digits, that wouldnāt say or feel the same way about me (or at least, so Iād hope)?
I donāt know if that message you gave or told yourself from or at an early age that your therapist analyzed for you - was as a result of āsafety,ā Or a ādefense-mechanism,ā or sorts, in the sense that... you maybe feel - if I donāt trust anybody - & ever let down my guard, wall, whatever you want to call it... & give them that sacred part of me. Then they canāt in turn let me down! Because I have nt even given them that chance, or opportunity (to do so!) : ) who knows, and is to say?
for sure. . .
