Can't do anything about it

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by NavalKnight, Dec 5, 2009.

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  1. NavalKnight

    NavalKnight New Member

    Ok. So I am in the Navy. As far as the Navy is concerned, I don't really have a problem with it. I do my job to the best of my ability, always get told im doing a good job, and my superiors are always nice to me.

    The problem I have is with people. People are stupid. They get us all into trouble.

    But that is neither here nor there.

    As of late (Forever) I have felt underappreciated. As a kid I didn't talk much becuase no one was my friend. I only spoke to my parents and I didn't talk to anyone else unless instructed to. Around 9th grade I started talking to people. I was picked on becuase I have dandruff, and I was a bigger kid. I had a girlfriend, who cheated on me three times, and I decided on my own accord that i was not going to date her anymore, so I left her. Around 11th grade, I found another girl. We dated for 7 years. It was fun. But when she wanted to marry me, I was unstable. Financialy and working wise. So I declined. And then My dad retired from the Air Force, and I moved. I went to CalPoly San Luis Obispo for a while, then Enlisted in the Navy. I get depressed often. I often feel like no one wants to be around me. I get ditched all the time and it feels like no one truly appreciates me. I am honest, and all the friends who say they are my friends tell me that im like a brother. nothing more. I can never be anything more to anyone. When I want to talk to someone, I just scare them away. I tried to talk to someone here, but she told her superiors who told my superiors and It was a factor that resulted in my being ejected from the class I was in. That and being Cocky and Arrogant. I don't think I am either. The people I talk to on a regular basis say the same when I ask. But I think they think the same way. I am not good enough. Anyway, Now I am without a job in the navy, and no signing bonus. Workwise, im told im a good person. Personality wise, im told that im not so much. My boss has said directly to me that I am a "ouchebag and a digrace to the Navy." I don't think I am. I work hard. I do what I am told to do to the best of my ablity.

    The Reason I feel the way I do most of the time is because I get ditched. Often. People will invite me out, and then either go out without me, or take me, and leave me out there. Both have happened. Everyone says I should get new friends, but I feel that I am inadequite for everyone. Especially women. I am a social butterfly. I love to speak, I give great speeches. I am an awesome talker. But I am also Honest. I have a sense of Honor. I won't mess with a drunk girl. I don't hurt people. I hate fighting. I don't think that this is what women want usually though. I just hate it. I hate how everyone relies on me to do things, and when I need help, no one can. Its stupid. At night, it gets worse. If something goes south about 5ish, then I just take 9 or 10 sleeping pills and sleep and hope everything gets better in the morning. I have trust issues with people becuase of the girl here, and I have papertrail paranoia naturally. Its hard. I just feel so hopeless. Like I will never be good enough for anyone. I have varied intrests and Its often hard to find someone I like. most of my friends who have demonstrated trust, I trust. but its only one or two. I don't talk to anyone really about how I feel anymore though. It feels like everytime I do, I just get more lost, and they always are like "I can't help you." I know its true too. I just don't know what to do anymore and I just want to end this stupid suffering. I feel that Suicide is an answer. But I know its not. But Im running out of things to do. Help? suggestions?
     
  2. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry things are hard for you...I can relate to the paranoia thing, anxiety can be treacherous but since I've been taking meds, I feel less paranoia and I'm more balanced emotionally...

    Have you concidered seeing a therapist or a psychiartrist? They could help you with depression and paranoia...or they could be a good ear and support for you every week...help you get some social skills and all...
     
  3. NavalKnight

    NavalKnight New Member

    Yeah, I tried that. They just give you a test, and then I was shuffled off to doctor after doctor. It just became tiresome. No one it seems ever has time for me. therefore, I have no one to talk to. Its hard. I hate it.
     
  4. WildCherry

    WildCherry Staff Member ADMIN

    Just wanted to say welcome to SF. :hug: My PM box is always open if you want to talk.
     
  5. NavalKnight

    NavalKnight New Member

    Arigato gozaimasu. Thank you WildCherry.
     
  6. johnnysays

    johnnysays Well-Known Member

    You can't be as bad as me, so take that as a compliment.

    I'd be the receiver of every curse known to man, if I didn't scurry away and hide in my hole.

    I know telling you this doesn't help you. Then again, coming here to solve your problems isn't going to help much either.
     
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  7. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    we might not solve problems but we're here to support one another and give advice...
     
  8. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    Wow okay, hmm what kind of doctor did you see? I never passed any test...do you have a health center that could maybe give you information on how to get someone???
     
  9. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    I don't know if you need meds because I am not a doctor.. But I do think therapy would help you.. You will learn coping skills, and how not to discount you positive thoughts..Give it a go and see if it doesn't help...Try going to your local VA hospital and see if they can help... It takes time to build that bond between you..So give it a fair chance.. Sometimes you have to go thru a couple therapist before you find one you can deal with..Good Luck!!
     
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