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its been a lil over a year since my ex was put in jail for domestic violence. i never thought that it would have got as bad as it did. i am trying to move on. i have a new boyfriend and we have a son together but the memories that keep coming back hurt so much. i wanna be able to block it all out but cant.. ive been lying 2 my bf about how im feeling. idk wut to do or say. i feel so alone so empty. i need someone to talk to.

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Hi sorry you are feeling so alone You are right you do need to talk to someone okay A therapist to help you get through all the pain and abuse you suffered. You cannot just bury honestly ive tried. The only way to get through this is to get help for you A coucillor that deals with abuse or a therapist but a specialist that will help you finally heal inside hugs to you Do it for you and for family okay so you can become stronger here if you ever just want to talk okay hugs


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Secrets are very costly...and there is no reason for you to keep yours...maybe professional care would help you find a way to make peace with getting the support and caring you deserve...it is so unfair (this word lacks the gravity but all I can find right now) that the victim continues to pay as you are...you are in my heart and prayers...J


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Sometimes you just can't make things go away. You go through some experiences and it changes you and there's no way back. The important thing is to accept yourself and love yourself...
Seaway, I'm in a very similar situaton. Its crazy the more and more people I meet who are in the situation. It gets me so bummed. Does your current bf know about your ex at all?
So sorry to hear things are getting so stressful for you. Perhaps a community support group could help give you a group of people to talk to? A local hospital will usually have a list of support groups for abuse survivors, victims of violent crime, family suicide, etc. Good luck, and keep moving forward--you've got a great future ahead!
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